Living with Ourselves

Love that quote @Sophia1 - so often we react to how others are feeling and that just exacerbates the situation but acting with more a sense of peace can then be reflective for the other person to calm also.

@Sophia1 Thankyou.

@Zoe7 @outlander @Maggie@Owlunar@Adge@eudemonism@Former-Member@Former-Member

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@Zoe7 wrote:

Love that quote @Sophia1 - so often we react to how others are feeling and that just exacerbates the situation but acting with more a sense of peace can then be reflective for the other person to calm also.

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yes it is far easier to offer support to others than offer support to oneself..

I am certainly living testament to that...

@Sophia1

We do often forget to attend to our own needs @Sophia1 espcially in interactions with others - whether that be lack of self-confidence or feeling rail-roaded by others - we often do not voice our own opinions/concerns/etc. and are left feeling like we have 'lost out' to a certain extent. Part of the 'art of conversation' is identifying the needs of others and reframing what they are saying in a positive context whilst also getting our point across in the same light. That is not easy to do and takes a lot of practice and skill. ...but once you 'master' it - it certainly helps with every interaction you have.

hello @Zoe7

I find the art of conversation a tricky one to articulate...

to me it differs with moods...circumstances...personalities...manners..

so many variables..

I believe the most important part of a two way conversation...is showing that you are clearly listening...

conversation is not as many people believe and portray....an exercise in talking at someone...

it can be a very pleasant...interesting...rewarding experience if interest and respect is shown on both sides...

I adjust my style of conversation to the individual...

these ideas work well for me..

we are all so different thank goodness...another factor in having an interesting conversation

I agree with everything you wrote @Sophia1

I do get annoyed when people talk at others though and don't actually listen themselves - both listening and respect are essential in any 2 way conversation.

I tend to be more of a listening and only add something to the conversation if I actually have something to say - I think that is why I find it hard on here sometimes too - 'small talk' and talking for the sake of it are not things I enjoy at all. I am happy with silence and often find that more uplifting than talking.

I really like this picture and the comment @Sophia1@Zoe7@outlander@Maggie@Adge

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It's horrible when someone goes around spreading their ill-will and yes - it is because they got up on the wrong side of the bed and that can be such a toxic thing to share with other people

How do we deal with that?

mmmm - yes - we can refuse to inhale their ill-feeling and hope they will inhale our calm - I get it - but that can be so hard to do

I feel myself that instead of retaliating I need to get out into the fresh air when I am near someone filling the immediated environment with the dark shadow of their own misery and who knows - they may be entitled to feel that way

If we can spread our calm and peace out from our centre - if only we are able - then we help not just ourselves but everyone in the crowd who may be feeling tired and fed up - that is such a good thing to do - I wish I was better at it but we can only do our best

But it's a best worth doing

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