Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Sorry to read that @Former-Member - hope you feel better real soon. Thinking of you 🤗🌹x

@Former-Member @Former-Member @Shaz51

thank you @Appleblossom

Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Former-Member

Good morning @Former-Member@Shaz51@Appleblossom and all

It pains me to read that you have been so badly hurt by family @Former-Member. I can relate to this - and sometimes this pain can shadow the good in our life - well that was happening with me. And worry impounded this. I am starting to see this and am now turning my focus from the pain elsewhere - such as the garden. It does not always work immediately but I feel better than before. Hopefully with practice it will get better and better.

Just want you to know @Former-Member that you have a friend here. I know it's not the same as the real life ones but where I can support you here I will. I wish we could have that chat and cuppa too - it would be wonderful and we would laugh as well - guaranteed. People don't do the latter enough.

I had a wonderful phone call last night - one that took me completely by surprise and could not have come at a better time. Last night I was starting to feel that I was failing in life - wasn't making much of a difference. With the way my daughter was and all....Then a male co-workers mother rang whom I have never spoken to before (he had my number). She told me that her son told her he was planning to take his life but I changed his mind. I had no idea of his plans - I just always treated him well, made him laugh and helped him when down and anxious. When he saw the bad I spoke back pointing out the good - in him as well. He is always helping others - even When others would not be so kind to him (which disgusted me, but these people will never be happy either i explained to her, as inside feelings of emptiness plague regardless how it seems on the outside - lots of friends etc, they are empty and is why they are so vindictive).

I had no idea how seriously bad he was feeling though . That has made such a difference to how I view life now and my place in it. We can all make a difference - even when we don't feel up to it or feel powerfless to do so. The power of kindness, laughter, compassion and listening to someone when in need can change everything. So now when I feel down I remind myself of that phone call. In a way he saved me as well.

The mother said her son did not know she rang me and I asked her not to tell him. Let things continue as normal.

With my daughter I have to let her make her own decisions and to stop worrying. She knows I love her and will be there - I pray for her safety and will now let the future take care of itself until she works it out. With baby steps I think I can do this now. I trust she will come good one day. All will be well.

Glad you managed to get some rest. It can make the world of difference in how we cope. Never say never my friend as tomorrow is a new day and the future is not ours to know. It will get better as we work it out. It can take some doing but with baby steps we will get there to a better place. One day at a time. Hope you are feeling okay today. Thinking of you alway and here for you - 🤗💜xx

Hi @Former-Member@Former-Member

That is a wonderful story Enigma - it is really great that this friend's mother contacted you and you know a little of the back story and how you helped this man - we so rarely get that kind of feedback and it has to be uplifting and - I am trying to think of a word but let's say it must feed the soul.

And Bella - I am sorry you don't have family around that you can share with - I am trying to pull some of my extended family together a bit - for my uncles are both aging and one of them is very ill - but the circle I am doing what I can about is small and doesn't include my siblings - I doubt they would "get" what I am about and - yes - this hurts and we are often so unhappy about this kind of thing but we do not need toxic people in our lives

I haven't read the back-story on the thread - but it might be sharing moments like yours Enigma -

Mine would be that early in February I booked a short trip interstate to visit my aging uncle and aunt there not knowing if my uncle would be well enough to see me - and it was an unusual thing for me to do but my aunt was delighted and as chance and/or prayers would have it my uncle was well enough to be able to go out for a few hours and the three of us had a wonderful afternoon together.

It has to be a special day in my memories for the rest of my life - my uncle's health has failed yet again and he may pull back or he may not and who can tell - but the reality is that I went and we had this wonderful afternoon -

To me this was a gift - I believe it was for them also - my other uncle was glad to hear of it and we had a short phone conversation - these brothers miss each other a lot now they are aging

But in this story of my having young uncles when I was a child - my parents have gone and I still have these uncles who have been in my life always

I am not sure if this is what this thread is about but surely our memories will serve us well if we can preserve them - even if our immediate family members forsake us.

I am sorry this us how it is for you Bella - and I understand

Dec

Hi @Owlunar - so good to read a post of yours here 😀. Yes, that is the intention of the thread, to share our feelings (good, bad) and our stories and experiences. What a wonderful story about your reunion with your uncle! What a wonderful thing that you took that leap of faith and followed your inclination to visit him - resulting in special memories for you both.

It would of been so healing for your uncle and that memory would be helping in his present hard time. So glad to read of the special bond you have with your uncles - makes such a difference in ones life that type of connection. I don't have it with extended family but with my husband, daughter and some friends and I cherish it.

It is rare to receive such feedback as I did - many of us would of touched people in this way. It shows the good that can happen but rarely spoken about. And it came at a time that I personally really needed to hear. There is always a point....

You are right about toxic people - we have to keep them at arms difference to protect ourselves. I have done this myself and understand where you and @Former-Member are coming from. It's wise to do so as only more damage would pursue. This is what I am trying to get through to my daughter. All in time...

It is hard to feel all alone in our struggles though and that is where this forum is very helpful when treated and used in that good will. We are here for you @Former-Member as I know you are here for us when you can. It means even more to me that you are there as I know how you struggle and you still try and post and listen. You are a very special person - your daughter is so lucky to have you. Others would be too but now just is not the time. One day they will walk into your life when you are ready - and we are here in the meantime for you.

Dec - you are wise, good memories can carry us through the not so good. I hope to make some more good ones in the near future by not allowing my emotional pain to overshadow. I love to read people's stories - the good and not so good - and their thoughts and experiences - it's all part of the journey. ❤️xx