Niquas Notes

You are beautiful Claire I am safe. I will not leave you either. Love to you, Faith, Enigma, Hamsolo & everyone.

I think I just have to feel this until it changes. I do not blame my child, how can I when I'm the 1 who brought them up & I know I didn't do the best job.

How can I condem them for not doing the best job?

They are doing, the same as I did, the best they can.

Thank you for understanding I'm doing the best I can right now, I don't have a lot of words.

I love you

NN

your safety is more important to me than you having lots of words so thank you for letting me know @Former-Member it must be really uncomfortable for you right now, but your strong and have faith youll get through it. i hope that change comes quickly and you can be more at peace once again. you done and are doing the very best you could when your child was growing up and still are.

love to you too

hows your pooches going? hmm your in qld.... it think your probably getting a drenching arent you? or at least a cool change hopefully.

Hi Niqua and everyone. It is 2.30am here and I am on one of my late night awakenings. Even travelling, with its strains and exhaustions, I still have these. Just went outside for a smoke. So uncannily quiet out there, with just the haunting sound of a solitary night bird, and the far distant sound of a barking dog. Aside from that, nothing but true silence over the wide valley plain below the hill where sits this little cottage. How rare, this sweeping stillness!

Niqua, I have caught up on your latest news, and want to wrap you up in love and hugs. I know there's nothing else really to be done but to stand firm beside you in spirit as you continue through this hard time with your child and family. Even if there is tension over it, I am glad you have received some funds in your account from them. May that continue now. It is the least you deserve. With luck and time your child may realise the impossible situation they are putting you in. I hope and expect that the missed calls relate to them perhaps feeling some shame over what is going down and has been in the past too. I encourage you to continue to stand as firm as possible on this issue. Boundaries need setting and maintaining here, I think, though I also recognise there are no quick and easy answers.

Thinking of you, dear Niqua, while wandering in these southern zones. Sending you lots of love. oxoxox @Former-Member

Good Morning Mazy @Mazarita, Claire @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope , @Shaz51 , @CheerBear , @eth , @Bunniekins , @Former-Member

@Former-Member Hi Niqua! I feel quite privledged being added to your Niquas Notes :D!!! Hoping you have a kind and calm day love gp xxx

A Big Hello to @outlander@Mazarita@MDT@Faith-and-Hope and everyone that passes 🙂

I love you Mazy @Mazarita

I wouldn't mind if you didn't read through my stuff, your on holidays, I want you to enjoy 🙂

Of course you can if you want I just want you to know it's Ok.

There's tiny little alarm bells going off in the back of my head due to your 2.30am waking after such strains & exhaustios, I think those strains & exhaustions flip a switch when they get too much, I find it a little frightening. But I know your strong, & even if your switch gets flipped I know you'll carry on; I just know it won't be so enjoyable & I don't want that for you

Though maybe you need that little bit of middle of the night, all that chaos going on all day, & you find your peace in the middle of the night I'm glad the night gave you a sweeping stillness. You know that silence is the natural noise of the land. All the noise that so many people get so used to, is really only Human noise.

I will snuggle in your love and hugs, I will selfishly snavel them all up - Thank you Mazy & I will draw strength from the firmness of your spirit that you so freely offer

There is tension, I think worse than xmas, I think compounding from xmas. I do not feel very firm in my stance, I did not realize I was taking 1, the words just fell out of my mouth. I could not believe after putting 4 thousand dollars into that household at xmas, that my child was crying broke less than a month later.

I worry about drug addiction, where is all that money going? Enough of that! This blurbs getting negitive, you need to stop reading it & get back on that roller-coaster - grabbing as much positive as you can hold

Love to you Mazy

good afternoon @Former-Member

Sending you tender hugs @Former-Member, @Mazarita

Hello @Former-Member, we haven't met yet I don't think. I really feel for you in your current situation and from the far outside it looks and feels like you are being abused financially (and emotionally!) by your child and partner. It is a very difficult situation and I applaud you for standing strong now and starting to set boundaries.

The Australian Securities and Investments Commission has advice for people in your situation. You may find some useful information here: https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/borrowing-and-credit/borrowing-basics/loans-involving-family-and-friends

I was appalled at the treatment you have received and am quietly simmering on your behalf, no one deserves to be treated that way. It is very complicated when it's your own family, I know, I hope you can keep putting down those strong boundaries and find your way out of it, leaving yourself with your secure nest egg.

I second the advice someone else gave about getting some legal advice. I see that Uniting Communities has a service, perhaps you could reach out to them for some advice? https://www.unitingcommunities.org/contact-us/

all the best, and strength to you.

Hey @Former-Member a PS: I was looking around that ASIC site and came across this page which has multiple referrals for assistance and advice here: https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/families/financial-abuse