I have mental health but worried about my husband

Sorry to hear that @Bubbles3, that is a tough place to be 😞

H9e9 has been at me this hole time . He has not stopped. I cant do this any more. Feel SI

Want to SH

@Bubbles3

Hey @Bubbles3, seems like you've had a really full on day today. I'm glad you've opened up to the forum and spoken about what's been happening for you.

I sent you an email with some contacts, but for you and everyone else as a reminder, these things are ok to talk about and if you're struggling to keep yourself safe tonight it is important that you talk to someone.

Here are the services you can seek support from tonight if needed:

Lifeline 13 11 14

Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467

Beyondblue 1300 22 4636

Or if you need urgent assistance please call 000.

Dear @Bubbles3,

I wish I could be your Doctor, I would organise you a stay in a professional clinic to aid in your recovery and safety. Surround you with the nurture and care you need to gain strength and confidence in yourself.

You are a courageous woman, fighting, despite all adversary to get well and be able to one day soon live a great life again. Believe in yourself as I believe in you.

Your current situation calls for looking after yourself in order to be able to look after everybody else. I do regard the woman(wife) of the house as the most important person in the world. She is !

Best wishes,

Cracked73

He has finally gone to bed now. Its so draining being put down all the time. So now im staying for a few hour by myselk just having me time. Iv got some nice music goi g and im writting. Having a coffee. I really hope tomorrow is better. @Former-Member@Determined@Shaz51

Thankyou @Cracked73

Dear @Bubbles3,

It is so difficult for a relationship to not crumble and break apart at the face of any mental illness( I really start to dislike this term, sounds so judgemental). I am just only guessing here and no disrespect intended, but I caught myself feeling hatred towards my wife at one stage and when I thought about it I realised that it wasn't really hatred I felt for my wife but the feeling of being cheated out of a great marriage. Robbed of all my efforts to be a good husband and father, reduced to a mere money supply machine without getting anything back for my efforts. Not love, acknowledgement and support, but weird outbreaks and behaviours that do not remotely match the conditions I was hoping for when we got married. My most hurtful event I experienced with my wife was a few years back. We had bought a house that needed renovations, new kitchen, ceiling repairs, insulation, etc. I spent full 3 months working 12 hrs a day in my job to earn money and renovating further 6-8 hrs a night to be able to move in on time. My wife spent two weeks beforehand in hospital with my daughters and when she came up to move in she lost the plot and went off on me because I only managed to sweep the floors of the now fully renovated and empty house. I was gutted and heart broken.

So your husbands life has now radically changed in whatever way he knew before and now there is no more carpet under his feet. I feel so sorry that his lack of compassion and understanding towards your circumstances isn't there. I also wish I could give sound advise on how to turn your husband around for the better and at the same time give him some dignity and lots of love back.

Wishing you everything and more,

Cracked73

I know what you mean @Cracked73

Thanks

Dear @Bubbles3,

You're very welcome!