CatcakesSenior Contributor
Twisted -self care
Every morning I drive east into the sun.
At traffic lights I put sunscreen on the backs of my hands.
This morning I realised that this is self care,
Very rare for me.
I need to do more of this....
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Twisted -self care
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@Catcakes Cause I can fly off the handle sometimes. And I guess using this as my emotional outlet means I actually let my really bad negative emotions out.
It's sensitive and hard.
We're all on a not-fork edge, ready to be hurt or sensitive or wounded at the slightest touch.
It's super easy in this environment for disputes to happen.
And I'm sure some psychologist is in the background watching us learn to practice to resolve disputes.
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CatcakesSenior Contributor
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But how can we resolve it when I don’t know what it was I said wrong?
@Faith-and-Hope
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Have you considered that maybe it’s not you @Catcakes ?
Everybody gets uptight sometimes ..... everybody loses their temper ...... everybody presumes things at times ..... but these are normal human interactions.
If you care about the people who are your community, and feel safe in their company ...... then you can simply say, “I’m sorry ..... I have had a really crappy day and lost my cool ...... I hope I haven’t upset anybody, and I am sorry if I have. Are we okay now ? Is there something I can do to make things better ?”
That’s what the forums need to be. If we all take a step in that direction, we can achieve it as a community goal.
It’s what we teach the kids about caring and sharing.
Everybody gets uptight sometimes ..... everybody loses their temper ...... everybody presumes things at times ..... but these are normal human interactions.
If you care about the people who are your community, and feel safe in their company ...... then you can simply say, “I’m sorry ..... I have had a really crappy day and lost my cool ...... I hope I haven’t upset anybody, and I am sorry if I have. Are we okay now ? Is there something I can do to make things better ?”
That’s what the forums need to be. If we all take a step in that direction, we can achieve it as a community goal.
It’s what we teach the kids about caring and sharing.
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CatcakesSenior Contributor
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Ok @Faith-and-Hope
But I have apologised when I have lost my cool
But I don’t feel safe on the Forum ,
And I do care about the community,
And I know they are talking about me
I have chest pain
But I have apologised when I have lost my cool
But I don’t feel safe on the Forum ,
And I do care about the community,
And I know they are talking about me
I have chest pain
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I don’t believe they are talking about you @Catcakes ..... I don’t recall you being on the threads in question last night.
I have seen you apologise when you have lost your cool, and you clearly care about the community ...... I have loved getting to know you, and I am sorry you were feeling agfitates earlier tonight ......
Breathe Hon ..... everything is calming down and will resolve soon, I’m sure. Conflict resolution produces a stronger community, you know ? Even if it is hard in the moment. If we all want to be a caring community, we will be, and you are already a part of that ......
Please breathe ...... it’s going to be okay.
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I have seen you apologise when you have lost your cool, and you clearly care about the community ...... I have loved getting to know you, and I am sorry you were feeling agfitates earlier tonight ......
Breathe Hon ..... everything is calming down and will resolve soon, I’m sure. Conflict resolution produces a stronger community, you know ? Even if it is hard in the moment. If we all want to be a caring community, we will be, and you are already a part of that ......
Please breathe ...... it’s going to be okay.
💜
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I hope you aren't referring to the conversation I am involved in @Catcakes because it is definitely NOT about you AT ALL 
You have done absolutely nothing wrong in my eyes
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CatcakesSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Zoe for letting me know
Am a bowling ball of tension and misery here
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Am a bowling ball of tension and misery here
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hugs @Catcakes ...... breathe it out Hon ..... in for a count of 5 ..... out for a count of 7 ..... and try to get some sleep when you have calmed down ......
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CatcakesSenior Contributor
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Thankyou 😔
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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breathing - as @Faith-and-Hope has mentioned @Catcakes - is probably a good start.
I've never been too good at bowling (or the breathing lately lol) but I am sure I'd make a good bowling pin (close enough to the ground already 
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