Twisted -self care

If you were me I would say it's time for a bubble bath and bed.
Do you have something you can do right now that is nice for you? Cup of tea, cuddle your teddy (one day I will post a picture of my teddy!), wash your hair, sneak a few squares of chcolate....?
I think @Catcakes probably needs something nice right now.......

Thanks @Former-Member
I’m in bed but won’t sleep in this mood

This is what I do when I'm feeling shitty and I know I wont sleep:
I either do mediation
Or I do some exercises - kinda like ballet bar exercises (I danced for a bit growing up). KInda, moving my body and stretching out and deep/regular breathing all kinda help calm me down.
I was sooo sooooo SOOOO ANGRY!!! this morning, that i went for a walk to the park came back and did just that. Helped settle me down.
Don't know if it might help, but I'm sure you also have your 'thing' that helps you too.

I’ll try
@Former-Member
Thanks

Are they talking about me @Faith-and-Hope?
I’m so sorry 🤕

@Catcakes ..... presuming you’re asking about a conversation on another thread ......

The discussion is about flare-ups of conflict with seemingly little provocation, and how that can feel triggering or unsafe in terms of the freedom to express what you’re feeling. No names have been named, and it’s easy when that is happening to wonder who it is ..... but rather than individuals, I think it is about how to manage stored up frustration or resentment ....,, how to communicate when we are feeing unheard or have a concern that we want to see talked out and resolved.

In the United Nations, Parliamwnt House, schoolyard or anywhere else that is an open public forum, these issues will surface, so it’s realy about problem solving and conflict resolution .......

I am probably sounding like a politician here ..... lol ..... not my intent ...... I just value the forums so much and it would be great to see everyone feeling more settled. That comes, like with any family relationships ...... by believing in each other and endeavouring I be kind about how we communicat our feelings ..... and that’s all of us.

There is room for everybody, and everybody matters .....

Hoping things settle more now that Christmas and New Year have passed.

💜

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope
But I know they’re talking about me😓

@Catcakes.... ummm.... pretty sure one of the targets is actually me! A number of people on this forum hate my guts.
It's reciprocated mind you, but it's there.

I've not seen you do anything to upset people I think @Catcakes and generally if you have if you talk it over with the person concerned you can sort it out.

I’m so sorry 5-HT that you feel people “hate your guts”.
How would they?
Why would they?
☹️

We should all be able to talk things out when any sort of conflict arises guys ..... and I am not seeing “hate” per se ..... I think it is more about flare-ups of anger, and differences of opinion ....., and how we as a community choose to address conflict resolution.

Having raised a set of kids who come through the volatile hormone-fuelled teen years, that doesn’t mean anyone is meaning to be hurtful ..... usually it’s a reaction, but that can set off a chain-reaction.

If we value our community, then we need to invest in it and work towards giving space enough both express and resolve conflict gently.

We can do this ......