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RE: Darkness surrounds me
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Re: RE: Darkness surrounds me
Hi @Former-Member I've just been reading over your last few posts with @Sans911 and wanted to remind you that the SANE Help Centre is available if needed. I can see you are getting lots of great support here but just wanted to remind of other options too.
Kindest,
Pebbles 🙂
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Thanks @Former-Member, I might jump on chat. I don't want my kids to hear. I hate relying on other people. I just lost
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Thanks @Former-Member.i forgot about that one too
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member I'm back hun. I had to have a blood test for menopause. Yep, I am in the midst of that too which is probably compounding my symptoms. I currently am on a wait list for a public psychologist at my local mental health service. It's going to be another couple of months. I haven't had any therapy for about 3 or 4 months. It's really, really hard. I feel like am in limbo, and I hate existing like this. I don't even feel like I'm living.
Tell me about your children, because if want to live for them, that's amazing. I'm sure you're a really lovely mother just trying to do the best you can.
Tell me about your children, because if want to live for them, that's amazing. I'm sure you're a really lovely mother just trying to do the best you can.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member I'm back hun. I had to have a blood test for menopause. Yep, I am in the midst of that too which is probably compounding my symptoms. I currently am on a wait list for a public psychologist at my local mental health service. It's going to be another couple of months. I haven't had any therapy for about 3 or 4 months. It's really, really hard. I feel like am in limbo, and I hate existing like this. I don't even feel like I'm living.
Tell me about your children. I'm sure you're a really lovely mother just trying to do the best you can.
Tell me about your children. I'm sure you're a really lovely mother just trying to do the best you can.
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Hi @Sans911, ohh bum to blood tests!! That must be hard to wait for a psychologist for that long, something seriously wrong with our health system. We are reversing this now! You are existing and living, look what you just did for me. Shows how strong and compassionate you are.
i won't say I am ok because I am not but I am a bit calmer and my anxiety has gone down a bit thanks to you and @Former-Member for reminding me to contact them, which I forgot about in my lunatic rant.
i have two kids, 12 and 9 and are the reason I am fighting so hard. If it wasn't for them I think I would have given up already. How about you, do you have any children/pets??
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member these forums keep me going some days. Sometimes when we are overwhelmed we forget what we need to do to take of ourselves. It's good to be here for others; its a nice distraction if I can help someone else.
So glad things have calmed for you a little. I understand that doesn't make everything shiny and new, but if you can function a little bit easier, that's good.
So your kids at that age of shifting hormones too. Are you on school holidays yet? Here in Western Australia it starts today. Have you any plans during the holidays to do anything or go somewhere? Are your children both boys/girls or one of each? Sorry for all the questions, but I'm subtly trying to distract you if you haven't realised that already lol.
I am 47yo, so my eggs are probably all but gone lol. I nearly had children in my 30s, but not to be. I am currently alone, live a house mate, and my rescue cat (called A on these forums as he has a distinctive name). Everyone used to tell me I would be a good mother; I was never sure of that. I focused on my career, and worked very hard. But that's now in tatters too. I like other people's kids, cause you can hand them back.
So glad things have calmed for you a little. I understand that doesn't make everything shiny and new, but if you can function a little bit easier, that's good.
So your kids at that age of shifting hormones too. Are you on school holidays yet? Here in Western Australia it starts today. Have you any plans during the holidays to do anything or go somewhere? Are your children both boys/girls or one of each? Sorry for all the questions, but I'm subtly trying to distract you if you haven't realised that already lol.
I am 47yo, so my eggs are probably all but gone lol. I nearly had children in my 30s, but not to be. I am currently alone, live a house mate, and my rescue cat (called A on these forums as he has a distinctive name). Everyone used to tell me I would be a good mother; I was never sure of that. I focused on my career, and worked very hard. But that's now in tatters too. I like other people's kids, cause you can hand them back.
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I guess it is always a bit therapeutic helping other people @Sans911. And I think you are very good at it. I'm sorry to hear your career is in tatters, what did you do? I am on work cover at the moment but am trained as a secondary teacher. Worked mostly with disadvantaged students so witnessed a lot of trauma through that.
Im happy with the questions, distractions are always good. I have a 12 going on 21 year old girl with attitude and a sweet 9 year old boy. They started school holidays today which will be a good distraction during the next two weeks. I like that they can fend for themselves. I too love babies but love handing them back too.
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This is my happy place. I'm sitting in here tonight because the outside world is too scary at the moment. It has too many bad and painful memories. It is where I have no control and where I can't trust myself.
So my happy place is calm and peaceful. It is where I am the safest. Anyone is wlecome to come here and sit with me or have a chat. There is a fire going to keep you warm and cosy. I have some hot chocolate already on the go.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Your happy place is beautiful @Former-Member 🙂 It's so great to have a happy, safe place to retreat to.
