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RE: Darkness surrounds me
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member its not up to you how he feels ok. He wants to understand what your going through and to do that he has to learn what it is thats troubling you. Chances are yes he might be upset and panic but that is an initial reaponse and then itll begin to sink in what you are going through. When you have nightmares you can tell him what they are and he can help you
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ok 3 sounds
1. tv - low pitched, taking about houses - life style show
2. humidifyer - low pitched sound, constant sound
3. wind - low, rustling in the trees
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ok what are the things you can smell? Any smell at all? Does it come off as a really strong smell or is it a weak smell? Does the smell match the things you can see and hear auxh as the breeze? Does it have an ocean breeze? Earthy smell? @Former-Member
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@outlander, I can't even deal with what happened, how will he. I could never tell him about the nightmares. I have never told anyone even the psychologist exaclty what happened. The psych knows that CSA happened but THAT IS IT.
What happened is all in my head and no where else. Why put someone else through that pain. People don't want to know what happened, people dont spealk of it. It is hushed, you know that. People would rather pretend that it doesn't happen
My head is hell, the images, words, memories will haunt me to the day I die. when that is, I don't care anymore
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ok how about we stop the senses @Former-Member as it doesnt seem to be helping
Do you want to talk about the csa with me? Theres no judgement here ok and ive been through it so i know exactly what your feeling ok. I told my story on here everything that happened to me i wrote it on a thread here too. No one knows thay i even have csa at all. My gp knows only a little bit and also my psychiatrist but i dont speak of it anymore. I found telling my story and letting it out to be helpful. I understand the nightmares and flashbacks and how it affects those with csa because i live it too. Its up to you if ypu want to talk about it or we can try another distraction?
Do you want to talk about the csa with me? Theres no judgement here ok and ive been through it so i know exactly what your feeling ok. I told my story on here everything that happened to me i wrote it on a thread here too. No one knows thay i even have csa at all. My gp knows only a little bit and also my psychiatrist but i dont speak of it anymore. I found telling my story and letting it out to be helpful. I understand the nightmares and flashbacks and how it affects those with csa because i live it too. Its up to you if ypu want to talk about it or we can try another distraction?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member he will deal with it in his own way. Remember he wasnt the one who actually experienced it so its easier for others to handle it. He cares very much for you Nell. He wants to help you
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@outlander, i don't want to put you through that. The things that happened to me no 8 year old should ever have to go through that. No adult should even have to hear about that.
I know you want to help and I am so grateful that you are here at the moment, but I would not burden you with that information. That's not fair on you, thats not fair on anyone. That's why I will take it to the grave with me. That way the only person hurt is myself and I cannot hurt anyone else.
It's too late for me but I can protect the people around me
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Oh sweets @Former-Member
I understabd completley. I was older than 8 when it happened to me but it still has the same effects so i get it ok. If you do ever want to talk about it its not a burden to me at all ok. You cant retraumatise me either so what you say is ok. But thats entirely up to you and theres no pressure.
Is there sonething that i can help you with? Anything at all?
I understabd completley. I was older than 8 when it happened to me but it still has the same effects so i get it ok. If you do ever want to talk about it its not a burden to me at all ok. You cant retraumatise me either so what you say is ok. But thats entirely up to you and theres no pressure.
Is there sonething that i can help you with? Anything at all?
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I don't know what I need @outlander. You have helped me heaps already by just talking to me. But you know sometimes that what ever you try or do, it doesn't seem to help. SH seems inevitable, its screaming so loud in the head.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Memberyou need love and comfort, support and understanding. 
im glad talking is helping you, keep talking ok. dont give into this SH, dont give it that power over you. i know its really so damn hard but keep trying for me, for yourself, for your kids.
keep talking here about anything you like. i am more than happy to keep helping you, its not hurting or 'damaging' me. i want to help, so talk away
what about calling that helpline that you found useful sweets?
