Calling LBGTI members

Hi @outlander

your question does make sense it is just hard to answer,

i dont identify as LGBTI myself but what i personally believe and have been told by friends who do identify as LGBTI is that it is not about placing a person in a box of one thing or another (because we are all on more of a spectrum) but sexual/relational preferences are individual to everyone and the important thing is only that you be true to yourself and (hopefully) feel free enough to identify (or choose not to) as whatever fits that authentic self without worry about others ideas

there are organisations that can chat with you if you are interested like qlife and organisations for more info like national LGBTI health alliance

i wish your luck

HI @Fancy_Pants

thank you for the link. ive taken a look at the link and seen they offer chat so when things quieten down here ill send them a msg and see where the chat takes me

@Queenie have you had any experiences with Qlife

had a chat to Qlife and they were pretty helpful
The counsellor said instead of labelling dony label at all that way it takes the pressure off

I can just say im still figuring out my sexuality. Then when i get more experience with either or both genders then i can figure it out and theres no rush at all
Just let things flow. Dont deny feelings just accept them and if i choose to persue them then go for it

@Fancy_Pants@Queenie

Just go with the flow @outlander. I think it takes some people a while to explore their sexuality and what they are comfortable with. Labels are just that... labels. Don't feel you need to be defined by anything. Just be you.

Sure you can @outlander. Fire away...

Yes, the feelings of attraction and the butterflies you feel when you're around this young woman are normal @outlander. It means you feel something for this person and are attracted to them. I read that this young woman is newly married however so she isn't single and available. This can cause all manner of confused feelings because of the fact she isn't available. I guess I was lucky with my Mrs because there was mutual attraction and although she wasn't single when I met her, we got together when her previous relationship ended.

It's super tricky for you though because you have this attraction towards someone who is not single and you know a relationship with this person is only a friendship. Doesn't stop those confused giddy feelings though does it? I wouldn't suggest opening up to this young woman about how you feel (because she is in a relationship and is married) because I'd hate to see you setting yourself up for disaster. I once had an online 'relationship' with a woman I had those kind of feelings towards, I didn't know she was married and when I told her how I felt, I ended up making a fool of myself.

It's a tricky situation @outlander. I say tread carefully. It's okay to have these feelings though, so don't feel bad about them, it's a normal attraction. I'd just hate to see you getting hurt.