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So I've come to the conclusion that I need to continue to live, survive the daily battles. For everyone that loves me. I've understood that I have to take responsibility and that I have to participate in day to day life and also start earning a living again.
As I am writing this I can see the flaw in my thinking. I understand things on an intellectual level. I've also understood on an emotional level that it would have a traumatic impact on everyone who loves me if I hurt myself.
That certainly sounds like an extremly busy life! How do you cope? But you should be really really proud of you that you do all that for your family AND study, that's a massive task, but will be so important for your life!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i dont know how i cope @Former-Member i really dont know and im thinking about having to give up my study and second job because im too busy a mum to my sisters and i dont like it. i took up the second job to stop me from having to watch them so much but now im trying to cram everything in before 230 when they get home because of it
i dont want to quit becasue i enjoy doing it and to give it up to play a mother role i dont want to do.
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Unknown userMember
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I don't know your circumstances @outlander but I hope you can keep up your study and look after your future. How young are your sisters?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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they are 14 and 6 @Former-Member i like being there for them but i dont want to be their mum and they hate me for it. my depression has coem out again unfortunalty yet again.
arggh its a never ending cycle isnt it
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Unknown userMember
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Good morning @outlander
Keep going, it's important for yourself. Kids grow up and soon the 6 year old won't need as much attention. Can the 14 year old step up and look after the 6 year old, so you can study at home while they're home. Is your mum sick? Can you ask for help from other services? Do you have a counsellor to help you through?
I can promise you that time will move on, your siblings will grow up and one day you have to free yourself of those responsibilities. I think it's important you keep a sense of self throughout and that you seek help.
I waited very long to seek help for things that happened when I was young, believe me it doesn't get easier with time. Are you actually an adult yourself yet or just the oldest in the family?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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good morning @Former-Member
we have totally gone off topic, this is your thread. ill tag you into my other thread with a response, id much rather keep this one here for you ok
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Unknown userMember
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Hi @outlander I can move over to your thread but I am happy to stay here too, it's an open place for me.
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Unknown userMember
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Hi all,
I'm leaving this forum. I wish you all the best. Take care xox
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Unknown userMember
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HI @Former-Member please delete my user account. Thank you.
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