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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Snowie

its already started here 😞 i dont think respite is going to go down to well

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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No it probably won't go down well hon @outlander

But you need to think of yourself and what would help you too.

Can your mum talk to him about it too, perhaps hearing it from her might give you some support you deserve too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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it wont help @Snowie when it comes to going somewhere else like respite centre it wont ever go down well at all. i only mentioned his eye specialist visit and already coped a mouthful-dont you send me to an old peoples home, dont send me to drs because they ask questions and want me to remember things from 40 years ago (just memory tests where they ask day and date etc of recent events). its just not going to go down well. im almost scared of sending him now and how itll go down including when he returns home

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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It must be hard for you hun @outlander

I wish I had some suggestions for you but I don't.

Just here for you and giving you support in any way I can sweetie 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thanks @Snowie much appreciated 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Hes not going to qualify

Im so dissapointed and upset

Theres nothing really they can do for me 😢😢😢

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Emelia8Senior Contributor

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I'm really sorry to hear that @outlander . I know how much effort it look to even try.

How would your Mum react if you went to her and told her you cant be her fathers carer any more?

The time may well be coming where, for your own wellbeing, you need to do this.

Keep in the back of your mind, that it could be for your pops protection too. What if you were to finally snap or something? Under the pressure you've been under, and the provocation from him ... anything could happen. Be it from physical harm or neglect.

Something for you to ponder.

Emelia 🌺😔

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I am so sorry to hear that @outlander

It must feel like the end of the road.

Sitting with you hun 💖💖

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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Why won’t he qualify @outlander ? Any decision can be appealed.

This isn’t right and it’s not fair to you. I am so sorry but you need to say if you can no longer support him.

Sitting with you with loving hugs.

💙🤗💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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They said that going off the assessment a few months ago he hasnt qualified. They said they will put in the papers to have hin reassessed but it can take up to 10 weeks. They said as he can do quite a few of the personal hygeine type activities (and few other things that wont go into) it it may be quite unlikeletmy he will qualify for respite. They said that 'being burn out and needing break' isnt generally a reason for respite or for needing fuether supports.
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