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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 4:47 pm AEDT

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I thought about ice creams @Eve7 but its to hot to drive in the car atm even with aircon on.
My sister has some heat related ailments atm so dont want to take her out to much except to go home later when it cools off abit. Shes abit better now but i think shes been out in the heat to much already this weekend and needs to rest in the cool for now

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:06 pm AEDT

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Do you ever feel like no matter how you act your just not a good person to be around?

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BowSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:10 pm AEDT

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What’s got ya thinking that @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:12 pm AEDT

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Ive never really had any friends @Bow not even in school and still now i struggle to or the friendships dont last

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BowSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:17 pm AEDT

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That can feel like a really lonely place @outlander I’m sorry that you feel that way.

You have friends here, I know it’s not the same though. And I know mh can impact on ones ability to make friends. I struggle. I feel lonely a lot too. And it’s really hard when you make friends, invest time and pour into their lives for that friendship to end. There is a lot of grief.

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BowSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:20 pm AEDT

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Your a kind and thoughtful person @outlander anyone would be blessed to have you as a friend.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:24 pm AEDT

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Its hard @Bow and if i do have a friend i usually get the biggest attitude from family like im not allowed to have friends or how dare i have one. I try to be nice helpful make an effort and invite people out for lunch or whatever but it never lasts and usually people get sick of me after a few days. Kinda sad that any msg i get is from someone just wanting me to work or from family needing something. Im not really welcomed in the family though i dont really get talked too and at events i dont get invites or get the look of oh your here. Dont really know whats wrong with me

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Eve7Senior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:25 pm AEDT

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I have friends and I often feel that way @outlander

I agree with @Bow and I feel blessed to have you as a friend but I know our mh often causes us to think we don’t deserve friends irl

💜💜💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:43 pm AEDT

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@Bow @Eve7 💕

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BowSenior Contributor28 Nov 2020, 5:45 pm AEDT

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I’m sitting in bed eating left over Thai and watching Netflix and was thinking, how fun it would be to have a girls weekend. @outlander And @Eve7 ... and anyone else. We would all be ok with each other’s qwerks cause we would all understand.

Sounds like you have a difficult family unit @outlander do you even need to tell them that you have a new friend? Can be horrible to feel like the odd one left out all the time. I don’t have a great deal of friends either and often feel left out of events and gatherings, especially since my marriage ended.., no one wants a single mum around. I have a lot of grief around lost friends that’s on my list of things to look at when I start with a psychologist next week.

I know none of this will make the ache any less @outlander but please be gentle with yourself. Hugs

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