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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:36 pm AEST

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i know that everything you said is true but i dont know why i have a hard time accepting it @Snowie
i know it wont ever go away and itll always be something that needs managing in some way.
So many people say i have a whole life ahead of me but it feels like ive lived enough for a lifetime. Im stuck between ive had enough and wanting normal experiences like dating, and travel, and just being able to breathe without having 100 responsibilities shoved down my throat. the other side is winning right now though and its gone from feeling so much to having all my energy and eveything sucked out of me.

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:45 pm AEST

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It is understanable to feel the way you do hun given everything you've been through and no doubt it feels like you have lived a lifetime already.

I know all our lives are different and our experiences are different but one thing we have in common is the strength and courage to keep going. No, we don't know what is in our future and we don't know what speed bumps will come up next @outlander I think it is more about dealing with what things that are in front of us at the present moment.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:58 pm AEST

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its hard @Snowie i dont know what to do anymore. i wish i was strong enough to leave.
im suppose to contact my actual counsellor tonight. i will only have a chance on thursday. i promised that i would continue the appts at least the once a fortnight. just feels like todays taken everything i had but if i dont then it will be more around 3 weeks that i havent spoken with her.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:01 pm AEST

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im sorry @Snowie ive put so much on you already today

i know what youd say to that, i just cant help it, i feel bad for asking for help. i havent triggerred you?

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:13 pm AEST

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Just do what you feel is right for you @outlander That is all we can do.

Please don't feel sorry hun, I am happy to be here with you 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:19 pm AEST

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@Snowie

thank you for being here. i am lucky to have you

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:23 pm AEST

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you don't need to thank me @outlander

Am happy to be here with you, you are so very important to me 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:27 pm AEST

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Your important to me too sis @Snowie 💜

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:29 pm AEST

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Will be back later hun @outlander

Got to go cook tea and hang out the washing.

Talk soon sweetheart 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 5:34 pm AEST

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💜 @Snowie

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