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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Lee82Senior Contributor28 July 2020, 11:38 am AEST

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That's good to hear @outlander and I am so glad you don't have to look after the kids tonight. More time to look after you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 11:39 am AEST

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Im scared if i mention sa then they have to report it @Snowie thats not something i can handle. That is my worst fear, i cant talk to anyone because of it. The only reason my nurse knows is because i was having an issue with womens issues ans it slipped abit otherwise ahe wouldnt even know.

All this set off by one of those dating advertisements on the tv last night. I had it under control for a while then i had a shower and was just flooded by everything and sprialing down ever since.

I wont go into much more though. Thank you for listening and understanding. I knew you would and you were one of the main people i was worried about even mentioning it.

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 12:03 pm AEST

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@outlander I don't think they can report it without your consent hun. I have spoken to both my psych and pdoc about my sa and not one have they said they are reporting it. But I can understand you are scared, it brings up lots of memories and emotions.

Unfortunately small things can be big triggers for us and they can come out of the blue too without any prior warning. It really does suck when that happens.

Always here to listen sweetheart. I would tell you if I was triggered at all by what you say hun 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 12:15 pm AEST

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That helps abit @Snowie its just because of my age that it happened and thati have my younger siblings. Being over 18 i dont think they can report it unless it was still
a threat like we were living in the same house but we arent and havent been for nearly 5 yrs now. Even when i think of mentioning it it makes me so anxious and sick with worry 😞 it makes it hard to talk to anyone and is one of the main reasons i joined here in the first place.
Ill see how i go abit later on this evening. I dont know if i can talk to her yet.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 12:19 pm AEST

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Thank you @Lee82 💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:10 pm AEST

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i spoke to a counsellor through a different service @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:11 pm AEST

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@outlander just do what you are comfortable with doing hun, that is all you can do. If you feel ready to talk then do, if not then don't. It is an extremely hard and triggering topic to talk about and is never going to be in that easy category.

If you decide to discloses about your sa, please remember we are here with a compassionate, caring and sympathetic ear. However, ultimately it is your decision on what, if anything, that you need to do.

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:12 pm AEST

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@outlander posted at the same time.

Hope it went well, am here if you need me.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:21 pm AEST

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i dont really know how i feel @Snowie i never really know what to expect or what i want out of a session. i told them i was experiencing the physical flashbacks and told them what the trigger was and they gave me some links to some strategies which after looking is just what is always told for people to do like breathing and that using other senses instead.
it just seems stupid now. it honestly feels like i should be over it by now, i should be able to go on a date or be ok with being physically intimate and yet im not. its not because of them, they did try to help me. never really know what to say to anyone anymore i guess

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 July 2020, 4:28 pm AEST

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I don't think we ever get 'over it', it is something we manage daily. I think it is more about using different coping strategies to try to deal with it.

There is no time limit hun on when we should be ready to date or when we are ready for intimacy, and it is definitely not stupid.

It is an extremely difficult topic to talk about and even harder to express these feelings to others.

You tried @outlander and that is the main thing, be proud of yourself for that.💜

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