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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 9:49 pm AEST

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oh lovely @Eve7 i didnt know you knitted. maybe once your blankets done you could share it here or to the craft thread? it would be good to see it.

i really hope tomorrow goes well for you

also you have been helpful since youve been here! it might not seem like youve done anything but ive seen lots of the supportive posts youve written on the forums

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SnowieSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 9:50 pm AEST

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@outlander If u were in an accident and got hurt (I pray that it doesn't happen) people would have to step up and arrange your pop, your sister and your whole family. You need to put what is right for you first, and yes be selfish, in order

To do,what it best for yourself.

I know for far too long now you,always seem to put others before your physical and mental health, but the comes a time where you need to be the main, the only priority. Perhaps if you need the surgery this might be a time where your family actually realise that you do do a lot for them and that they take you for granted. Sometimes people don't see it unless it is staring them in the eyes. Perhaps your family are a bit like that. They don't know ow what,they,had until it is gone.

I hope I am not making you more distressed hun, that was never my intention. I know you love your family but just sometimes we need to put both our physical and mental health first.

@Eve7 I hope you get some sleep tonight, I'm not sure if I missed you or not.

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:00 pm AEST

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yeah @Snowie maybe your right.
if i need it id still have it just have to work things out as i go. will start with the appt i guess and then go from there

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Eve7Senior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:12 pm AEST

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Thank you @outlander . I will put the blanket on the Craft page when it’s finished but it’s not fancy.

I get really triggered on these forums reading other people’s distress so I have to be really careful but I hope, in time I can be supportive.

I agree with everything @Snowie said pray that your Mum can see how unwell you’ve been and love you like a mother should.

Yes, I’m still awake and in bed watching Sleepless in Seattle. Sleep well my sister @Snowie and @outlander

💙💜💙

💜❄️💜

😊💛😊

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:15 pm AEST

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it doesnt have to be fancy @Eve7 youve put in the effort to make it so its worth showing! if you can here of course , i havent been able to show some artworks/projects including this one as theyve been gifted or the likes so cant show them to much.

she wont, they wont ever be. they didnt see it when i was suicidal and ended up in the hospital and they wont see it now. when this is all over and done with it will be like it never happened. sorry i wont get into it now.

i havent heard of sleepless in seattle. whats it about?

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Eve7Senior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:26 pm AEST

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I hope God gives you a new family then @outlander oops if you don’t believe in God but that’s what I hope...not another word about it now.

Its about a single dad (young Tom Hanks) whose young son contacts a radio station about his lonely Dad. It has a happy ending but is a bit of a tear jerker. I don’t mind these kind of tears as I get a good cry out of my system and then a happy romantic ending..if you like that sort of thing.

💛😊🤗

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:32 pm AEST

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oh sounds interesting @Eve7 i havent heard it till you told me.
i never really got into the romantic sort of thing in movies or books except for outlander but its much more then romance in it not specifically that. other than that i like the medical and crime things oh and comedy shows are always my go to ones.

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Eve7Senior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:42 pm AEST

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It’s definitely a chick flick @outlander and it’s a “no brainer” so good for relaxation. I also like crime and medical but dislike sci fi and anything to do with Star Wars.

Have you seen Ride like a Girl”?

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:44 pm AEST

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yeah im not a sci-fi fan either @Eve7 its funny though that one of my fave tv shows the big bang theroy are surrounded by sci-fi lol.

yep i have seen ride like a girl and probably every other horse associated movie out there!

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Eve7Senior Contributor25 July 2020, 10:57 pm AEST

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Why am I not surprised? @outlander @I am glad you have your horses...they are very healing. One day your horse will come to you ❤️ If your specialist can sort out your physical health...wait and see. I am getting tired and my thoughts are jumbled sorry

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