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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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@outlander Sounds like there are lots of ifs happening at the moment. I know it is hard not to worry about all these things. Can your other sister look after the younger one at all? She is at an age where she should be able too.

I am sure the people who get you to help them with their horses would understand hun. You are not always sick and if u need the surgery then they will just have to arrange something for that time.

Your mum and partner would just have to work out something, they won't have a choice. You take on such huge responsibilities hun

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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she does @Snowie but only in the day time as well. she also has school herself and homework etc being in yr 11 (going into yr 12 after this term) and she also works as well so its also not fair on her to just expect her to start being a mother either. like if i needed to go to the hospital for dressing changes, or go to an appt or whatever she could watch her for the hr or so while im gone but not like overnight/all day. and she doesnt have a license so its not like mum can go to work before school and my sister can drop young one off then go herself or pick her up and watch her for an hour or so till one of thems home. schools also to far and roads are to dangerous for them to just walk home as well so it makes it tricky in that sense that they cant just walk home or whatever either and mums shifts are stupid times but she cant help those thats just how its run. she either wont be home to pick them up or wont be home to take them to school.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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if i asked for maybe it to happen in the 6 weeks holidays it might be easier as they wont be in school then

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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You’re an amazing person @outlander I wish I could do something practical to support you and I hope that you are able to value yourself. You deserve so much more in life.

Can we have a cuppa together?

💙💜💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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of course we can @Eve7 that would be nice

@Sans911 @Snowie care to join us too?
Naturelover your welcome too but i wont tag you as i know youve logged off but just in case your still up

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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are you going ok? @Eve7 i know its been tough for you too

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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It’s not been my best year @outlander but I thought I’d drop by for a few minutes now it seems like the others have left.

Ill just have a cuppa then go to bed as I’m really tired tonight. Do you have anything planned for tomorrow?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah im hearing you about it not being a good yr @Eve7
sending love and hugs
i hope youll be able to get some sleep tonight.

i dont really have anything planned but i always say that and then something turns up. i will probably just try to get some of my crochet blanket done but no real plans.

what about you? any groups or anything youll be doing?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Sans911how did you go at the op shop today? did you get up to much else today?

are you going ok? happy to chat and listen or sit and share a hot chocolate. whatever you need

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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Crochet sounds good @outlander I’ve been knitting squares for a blanket which is just about completed.

I am going out tomorrow with a friend and if all goes well I’ll be discharged on Wednesday after ECT and a visit from pdoc. Hopefully all goes well and the worst part of this year is behind me.

Its been wonderful to meet you lovely people here.!I am so grateful for this support and hope I can return thebsupport one day.

Sleepless in Seattle is on tv and I love Seattle.

💙💜💙

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