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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 5:56 pm AEST

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how are you holding up? @NatureLover
did you go for a walk today?

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:02 pm AEST

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I'm doing well tonight so far, thanks @outlander but my new time of logging off is now 7.30, to try and get into a better sleep habit. Yes, I went for a couple of walks 🙂

What did you order for dinner?

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SnowieSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:08 pm AEST

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Ordering dinner sounds like a good idea hun. Saves cooking

Sorry to hear your stomach is hurting sweetie, hoping it settles soon for you @outlander

My day has been ok. Helped D change her room around and cleaned S's room. He really is a boy and leaves crap everywhere. Found 3 plates and 5 water bottles in his room 😒😒😒

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:09 pm AEST

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your good with your times and boundaries here hey @NatureLover

do you go to bed pretty early? im never asleep before 11 (and 11 is early for me)

i just ordered some chinese tonight. we dont order it or anything all that often so this is a nice treat as long as i stay away from rice and pasta and deep fried (so ill get a stirfry or something thats not full of spices etc)

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SnowieSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:17 pm AEST

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@NatureLover it is good to have boundaries in place. We have to remember to look after ourselves first. I don't normally last past 8:30. I normally am in bed and taken my meds before 9 at the latest.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:17 pm AEST

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I don't feel I have been that good with my times and boundaries, @outlander , but I'm working on it. Yes, I can't function after about 8.30 or 9pm, so I sleep at 9pm and wake up early too (before 6). That's what suits my body clock. But most people I know are night owls, so I'm out of sync. I am missing out on supporting you and the others in the evenings, for instance. But never mind, I'm no good in the evenings anyway, and I can catch up on your threads in the morning 🙂

(I feel really insensitive mentioning sleep when so many people including you hardly get any sleep 😞 - sorry)

Chinese stir-fry sounds good, I hope you are able to eat quite a bit of it 🙂

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:18 pm AEST

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Hooray, someone else who goes to bed early! 🙂 @Snowie

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:18 pm AEST

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boys! @Snowie 😑🤦‍♀️ my pop is seriously just as bad or he will use the same cup till its filithy and really needs washing. hes a grub in general though not just in the bedroom.

Changing Ds room around sounds like a good mum/daughter time though. i dont change my room around very often. i get new furniture(but im happy with the way everything is now so i wont get anything else) but the way my room is set up is the same way as it was when my mum was with her first partner got together and before they had my first sister (so over 18yrs ago)
the decor changes but the layout doesnt. guess it just works well 🤷‍♀️

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:23 pm AEST

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no its not insensitive at all @NatureLover honestly id much rather you have your self care and bed times to what suits you. im glad that you and others sleep, dont feel guilty for that

i go to bed late and wake early. thats pretty much my bed clock too but i fatigue easily so the later it gets the quicker i fatigue but dont actually sleep. kinda hoping that makes sense. but whats surprising is that i actually studied better at night, even if i did fatigue easy. even through high school and still now i always study better at night. probably cause im not disturbed so often and i feel ive gotten everything i needed to do done in the daytime.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor25 July 2020, 6:42 pm AEST

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Thank you, you're such a generous-hearted person, @outlander , I got lucky meeting you on here.

I'm not surprised you fatigue easily, although it sounds like you did before it became difficult to eat, as well? And maybe you also studied well at night if you're a night owl by nature?

I actually have no idea how you keep going, on virtually no sleep or food... 😥

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