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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:17 pm AEST

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@outlander hun, how are you going this afternoon?

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:18 pm AEST

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thats really tricky @Former-Member maybe start with the small convenience stores first where there isnt alot of people might be ok...

mechanics sorted so far and havent heard back about the horse yet. shes not going to be mine. mums arranged for a bow and everything for when she comes and already has it over fb that she is my little sisters horse.
maybe its for the best anyway. i dont even really like going to the horses anymore, esp when i have to do everything. almost makes me want to quit my job with them.

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Unknown userMember18 July 2020, 4:24 pm AEST

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Well have some rather strong thoughts about your mother that I won't share because it won't help you at all. 🤬 I am sorry you feel that way about your job with the horses though, it seemed to be a passion for you (sorry if I am wrong there) I don't know what else to say little one. Know that I am sitting with you this afternoon @outlander

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Unknown userMember18 July 2020, 4:26 pm AEST

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Afternoon lovely Zoe, I hope your trip to the city went well and you got what you needed. I hope you are settling in for an easy night with expectation to the work you have to complete. Sending you gentle hugs. @Zoe7

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Unknown userMember18 July 2020, 4:34 pm AEST

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I have been thinking about this reply to you for a while now @NatureLover . I am sorry I almost made you cry wasn't my intention at all and it pains me that you might not get that kind of support in real life. You are a beautiful lady with a huge loving heart and a caring soul, you have so much compassion and empathy for what we are all going through here that it saddens me that you may not get the same in return outside of the fourm.

You are not your disorders and deserve to be loved, appreciated and supported by everyone in your life. It's not like you choose them, you didn't wake up suddenly one day and think dam it would be kinda cool to have a hoarding disorder or ocd. Thank you for being the amazingly wonderful, supportive, caring friend you are. I am blessed to know you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:38 pm AEST

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thanks @Former-Member yeah i have a feeling of what you and others would say. i get it.
yeah it use to my passion but not so much anymore. its not even the job, its that im always on a timer or i have a whining kid with me

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:42 pm AEST

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hey @Snowie still quite under the weather. feeling and look very bloated today so im hoping that will ease. a shirt thats normally to big (as in 2 days ago) didnt fit well this morning so it would be nice if it would go down.
still quite tired but not sleepy tired

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:46 pm AEST

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Sorry to hear you are not feeling the best @outlander Hopefully the bloating will get better in the coming days.

Can understand that you are still tired in that way, you have been through so much lately, especially yesterday.

I hope you are resting today (yes putting my big sis hat on!)

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:53 pm AEST

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lol @Snowie ive been mostly resting. i just done the horses but it only took an hour and done some things online like ordered horse feed for a delivery etc but havent really been doing anything else.

im considering getting something like lite and easy or youfoodz. im so lazy with cooking esp healthy foods so im having a look to see if it might be worth getting so that me and pop are eating healthy (esp with his diabetes) but without costing a kidney to get each week/fortnight

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 July 2020, 4:59 pm AEST

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I am glad you have been resting hun. After yesterday you certainly deserve it.

Lite n easy or youfoodz sounds like a good idea. I find it hard to find the motivation to cook too @outlander I hardly ever buy takeaway or junk food at the supermarket because I know I will eat it if it is there. I always try to have fruit and vegies especially for the kids.

Hoping one of those options will not cost too much for you and your pop.

In saying that, I haven't organised anything for tea yet!!

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