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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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@outlander wow hun, he puts a lot of pressure on you. I really don't know how you do it all sometimes. He sounds very demanding and challenging.

Please remember that you are doing the very best you can even if he doesn't appreciate it.

I feel like I am slipping back a bit. The flashbacks are becoming more frequent, especially with things that have been happening. I have been trying to avoid things as much as I can but it is hard when it is everywhere. I spend so much time avoiding, and it takes up so much of my energy.

I am just waiting for the fall I guess.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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he really is so demanding and challanging @Snowie makes it hard when he just doesnt understand either and the more i argue the worse it gets even when i stick up for myself im still wrong or then he will go mope in the bedroom and ignore me and dob to me on everyone who will listen (including ringing people up just so they can ask how he is and then he blurts out what is happening here) its frustrating and makes it hard to get any family on my side.

its hard to avoid triggers when they are everywhere or you never know when it might pop up. avoiding really does take up so much energy. people think its easy but its not. could you increase your supports for now till you feel more grounded in and stable again ?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I don't think people understand sometimes how hard it is to be a carer @outlander and until they do it themselves have no idea what you go through each day.

I don't even begin to comprehend how hard you have it each day and how much you have to go through, especially without the support of your family.

I really admire you hun.

My supports are already pretty regular. I have weekly psych visits and see my pdoc every 2nd week.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Snowie hard to even want to be a carer atm. i dont have much energy for it.

oh im glad your supports are regular. i wasnt sure how regular they would be atm with the covid stuff. do you still have that support worker?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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My support worker finished @outlander I didn't really feel comfortable with her anyway, I don't think she was the right match.

I have to contact them to see what is going on. I think b/c of covid that it has to stop for now.

I will say goodnight hun, I really need to get some sleep tonight.

Will check in on you tomorrow sweetie. 💌💜💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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maybe once covid has settled you might be able to get another support worker and one who is a good match for you too. @Snowie

Goodnight, i really hope you can get some peaceful sleep
sending much love and hugs 💜💚

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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@outlander hun

Hoping today has been a little better for you.

How are you hun?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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been a tricky day @Snowie
Hows your day been?

also hoping @Sans911 might feel ok to check in today too

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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My day has been ok @outlander H went to work today for the first time in ages (he has been working from home)

Did you want to talk about your tricky day?

I hope she checks in too, am worried about her

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im glad your days been ok @Snowie i bet its been abit topsy turvy for H too having to try and work from home and now having to adjust back to working wherever he need to be..

No its ok, i dont really feel like talking about it atm. same stuff different day really. Im making a rainbow cake. or at least trying to anyway. ive finished cooking them and cutting them to make them flat and more even. just have to wait for the last cake to fully cool before stacking them and icing properly.
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