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Something’s not right

not coping

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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they are tough atm @Snowie i wish i could switch them off for a while.

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@outlander they are hard to switch of hun.

Do you want to talk about it?

Am happy to listen or we can talk about something else.

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i dont really know @Snowie
i just dont feel like a good person atm

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@outlander you are one of the most caring, supportive, loving, thoughtful, considerate (would you like me to keep going) people I know and my life is better with you in it.

In other words you are a good person hun. We are often so much harder on ourselves then on others. If I said that to you then you would be telling me what a good person I am.

Why do you feel that way?

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im always lethargic or irritable or cranky over the smallest things @Snowie i dont really even want to be in this house, i want to get right away from here. same as when i have siblings, i over react to everything and alot of their chatter gets unusually overwhelming so i either dont react or i ' uh huh' or i basically change the subject.

i realise how alone i am here but more often then not right now i just dont want to be around anyone not even at the horses-probably because its full of those fake people.

im often being told i dont do anything with the kids. they know that i do stuff for them but i dont do anything i use to like taking them to the park, taking them to the horses is almost the last place i want to go. im just so boring and whatever else i am and its wearing off on everyone around me. i see everyone drift right away from me unless they need/want something like with their horses needing care or whatever. must just give out bad vibes or something. i guess its for the best i dont really know how to interact with people very well anyway. always have been a loner even in school

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@Sans911

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Gee hun, you certainly are hard and critical on yourself.

@outlander whoever says you don't do anything with the kids needs to be reminded of who the parent is. You already go above and beyond for your siblings. They are NOT your children.

You take on so much for such a young person. Being a carer isn't easy and I know how taxing it gets. It isn't surprising that you feel like you have had enough.

Have you spoken to your GP about getting extra support for yourself and your pop? Perhaps it is time to get you some help.

You do not give out bad vibes hun. I can only go on what you are like on here and as I said before you are a caring and considerate person.

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Yeah i guess @Snowie i can see where the kids and others come from. I dont even understand it really. How hard is it to go for a walk around the park for half hr every now and then. Thats what a sister would do instead of taking them to work or sitting at home. It gets overwhelming and internally its like dragging a horse through a puddle that doesnt want go through the water. I just dont feel like doing much anymore. I get so bored doing stuff all but i dont find much joy in anything either. Just kind of get through the days.

Pop starts to get home care 2 hours one day a week soon. Just waiting to hear back about a start date. Thats pretty much it.

I have a pdoc but dont see them much anymore cause all he does it shove medications at me and i have the online counsellor i can access weekly when i feel up for it.

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Im sorry sis im dragging everything down @Snowie
Its hard to know what or how to fix something when nothing is wrong but also everything is wrong .
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