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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 8:00 pm AEDT

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Then again, do you WANT to have friends to hang out with?

That is, when you are working and they want to see you, would you go and meet them? @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 8:26 pm AEDT

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yes @tyme i want friends to hang out

when i go out with the work friend its nice and freshing. i try with another one but she drains me because all she does is complain about everything.
i dont want friendships based on negativity-i dont mind supporting of course but i dont want every encounter to be a ranting session for the entire duration
i work hard to make sure i dont have alot of negativity about my circumstances etc when i interact as it never ends well and its not a good balance for the other person either.
i actually like going out with one or 2 people. anymore is abit overwhelming but i use to be around alot of people with the horses (who obviously werent friends since they dumped me when i was injured) but i use to enjoy their company

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 8:38 pm AEDT

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True @outlander , makes sense.

I guess friendships are also give and take. They can be draining and vice versa. I guess those boundaries are important.

Would you consider studying a bit more? Or you won't have time?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 8:42 pm AEDT

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i had thought about doing a counsellors degree @tyme but im not to sure. i dont really have the mental capacity for it atm.
might look into a skills course or 2 throughout the year.

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 8:50 pm AEDT

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Fair enough. @outlander I don't either!

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 9:19 pm AEDT

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It gets tough trying to work and study sometimes esp when it’s a more intense study @tyme

In the last 4 years I’ve aquired 4 major certificates plus done around 20 skills courses in between. I think a few months off might do me some good

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 9:36 pm AEDT

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True that @outlander . Rest is good. Gives you time to catch up for yourself. I really hope things work out for you.

What are your plans for tomorrow?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 9:47 pm AEDT

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No plans @tyme still on leave. Have car running now so might go for a walk. Not suppose to drive yet but better than sitting at home again all day. Nice beach 10 min from me so might go there.

What are your plans

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 10:00 pm AEDT

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I feel like I'm still catching my tail @outlander . So pretty busy doing things tomorrow I guess. But I'll see you in the evening.

I'm heading off. See you then 🙂

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 10:03 pm AEDT

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I hope you have a good day @tyme

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