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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:07 pm AEDT

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no its just the way things are at the moment @tyme not specifically here.
just seem to be the inconvenience every where i go.

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 7:14 pm AEDT

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That's such a hard thought to sit with @outlander .

Can you think of evidence why you are NOT an inconvenience to people?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:18 pm AEDT

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no i cant @tyme
everything that involves me usually results in eye rolls, excuses why busy or cant or dont want to even for going out for lunch etc, or it costs me money so the only people around me are those who are paid. i dont hear from anyone unless they need something

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 7:23 pm AEDT

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Awww hun @outlander . That's nasty. What about the work person who came and visited you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:30 pm AEDT

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yes she is ok @tyme

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 7:34 pm AEDT

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Has she checked in with you @outlander ?

Are there others from work who check in with you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:36 pm AEDT

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i dont really speak to anyone @tyme and most of the time the work i do is by myself. 1:1 clients so dont have anyone else around. just go do my job and leave.
its become just a job now. i have no passion left for it like i did before.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:42 pm AEDT

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i guess really the isolation is my fault. i try to make friends but im not normal and i have anxieties so meeting anyone new is hard so i tend to stick by myself but i have tried to make new friends. just never successful at it @tyme

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tymeModerator20 Feb 2025, 7:43 pm AEDT

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I wonder if it's because you are overworked @outlander ? If I spent 120 hours working, I'd be sick of it too.

And if you aren't feeling the best, that adds to the pain.

Oh hun... just feel like giving you a hug

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Feb 2025, 7:48 pm AEDT

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i had to @tyme i had a surgery and a house to pay for and now because im falling so far behind in bills ill probably have to keep doing that for a while so i can actually get myself out of debt for once.

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