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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i can go back to light duties but means i wont be able to work as much as i was before @Snowie id like to go back to doing 4 light duty shifts though so would mean night shifts or short weekend shift where i only do half the shift without the intensive part of it.

massage was lovely and i got picked up by a friend and went to dinner. its the first time ive been out of the house in 8 days so it was nice

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I'm sure it was nice to get out of the house @outlander

I guess easing back into work is the right thing to do so you don't overdo it hon.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah i have to be on light duties for around another 4-5 weeks so i dont have much choice but with surgery out of the way i dont feel like i have to work 24/7 now. i have fallen behind ina few bills though so id like to try and catch up on some of those. @Snowie
i wish i could pause all bills and focus on one at a time but it doesnt seem to work like that!

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hey @tyme

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tymeModerator

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Hey @outlander @Snowie!

Missed you both 🙂

How's your recovery @outlander - oh, and you too @Snowie - recuperating from some big weeks?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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recovery is slow @tyme but i had a massage today and went to dinner.
i would like to try and get back to work next week as im out of sick leave at the end of this week and bills are still coming in

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tymeModerator

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Yes, recovery is slow. Please take care if you go back to work.

I can see how financial stressors can exacerbate things.

I'm so glad to hear you had a massage today 🙂 And I want to reiterate this AGAIN, it has been so so nice to see you around more (as I've said before, I'm not telling you to have another surgery!).

I remember we used to chat all the time. About your sister, about the horses, about your pop... it was such a great time to get to know you more.

With your work, it is considered something like your own business? @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i have spoken to one company who said i could go back to just nights which are the 'easy' shifts. no personal care or heavy lifting etc just working the machines but once set up theyre generally ok. and a little bit of cleaning which i can do slowly @tyme

i want to keep being here abit more. leading up to surgery, some weeks were 120 hours long sometimes longer so it was hard but i cant go back to that. its to much, i just want to live comfortably and be able to put a little bit aside in savings each fortnight.

i already work for myself @tyme but not under a business name. in disability its call an independent support worker so i have my own insurances, abn etc and i have to do my own taxes, invoices, put money into my super etc. but i like the companies. its less admin atm and i dont have to think about how much of each invoice i need to put where and chasing unpaid invoices etc which becomes a problem sometimes.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im not getting any notifications either @tyme

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tymeModerator

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@outlander wrote:
im not getting any notifications either @tyme

I'm going to monitor this and see if this is happening to others too. Just a note, we can't do anything about it until tomorrow, except for raise the issue.

And @outlander , yes, I get the disabilty work stuff. I have that too with the disability work I do, but mine is with children - not adults. Sames thing.. invoicing, ABN etc. I don't do it much though. Less than 5 hours a week and sometimes no hours. Suits me fine though.

Anyway, with work, I hope it works out for you @outlander . You are just too amazing 🙂

I'm going to wrap up now, but I'll see you tomorrow if you are on.

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