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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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tymeModerator

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Sounds like the battery was on its way out, seeing it's only been a few days - not even a week @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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maybe @tyme ill soon find out if it wont jump start either.

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Emelia8Senior Contributor

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Hi @outlander 👋

I'm okay thanks.

Wishing you a speedy recovery from surgery. Definitely not easy not being able to drive for a while. I found it really hard not being able to drive for 3 months after my spinal surgeries. Well done for doing so much food prep etc beforehand. At least you can eat some healthy meals without having to cook meals. And of course, thanks to COVID, grocery deliveries is so easy these days. Something I relied on for months after my surgeries.

Please do take care, and don't start doing too much, too soon. 💐💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Emelia8
i had a gp appointment today as i wasnt feeling to well yesterday and had a slight fever and cough with that awful metalic taste. ive got tonsilitis but i do tend to get it a few times a year and was talk of having them removed. they were enlarged at time of surgery but hadnt had any other infection symptoms then so mustve been brewing. have some antibiotics and wounds checked and look to be ok. will give the specialist a call soon to make appointment for this weeks review with her.
unfortunately i cant really use delivery services where i am as its a granny flat located around the side of the main houses so the drivers dont know where to go but ive plenty of things here thankfully and have a support worker with me tomorrow so i can pick up a few extra supplies and medications.

@Glisten

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GlistenSenior Contributor

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Very smart @outlander Good to read that you are tracking well with self care.

Tonsillectomy on the your To Do list ❤️

Get those suckers out. It will save your body a lot of stress and energy ⭐️

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Glisten
not sure about another surgery yet if i dont need to. maybe it can be a joint operation next time im needing one.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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is anyone around?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Hi dear @outlander

I'm glad your op went ok. Read that you had to stay in for longer than expected. I guess it is better than being sent home too early to just end up back in there. Hopefully you are on the mend now hon.

Sending lots of love 💌💌

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Snowie
yes on the mend. not allowed to drive till bascially sunday and only short distances. im going to try and get back to work next week as im out of sick leave after wednesday so gotta pay the bills and catch up on the things i havent been able to pay.

i am getting a massage in home today. my muscles are aching so badly even stornger pain relief isnt working so going to try a massage and hopefully get a walk or 2 in before the end of the week to stretch out abit more

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I hope the massage went well @outlander and it helped.

It's hard when paying bills comes before our health. I'm sure more time off would have been ideal. I know your work is demanding so can you go back on light duties at all? Just don't want you to make things worse and go back to the start.

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