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Something’s not right

not coping

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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I’ve done a lot of clearing out etc in prep for surgery @tyme so theres not much for me to do in that space

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You certainly had a BIG surgery! How long before you can drive? @outlander

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at this stage at least 7-10 days @tyme but it could be longer pending how the sites are healing. i see my surgeon next week so ill know a little bit more then. the general rule however is im not suppose to drive until the sutures on the top layer of skin have been removed as the seatbelt will rub and risk the chance of them opening on 3 of the sites

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7-10 days is pretty okay. I was thinking months or something! And yes, I was thinking the seat belt and sutures are NOT a good combo! @outlander

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its about a 6 week recovery @tyme but the time i can drive isnt that long. i cant bend, lift anything heavy etc for at least 6 weeks.
i would absolutely go crazy if i couldnt drive for 6 weeks. i think im allowed back to work at week 3 pending how things are going BUT light duties only and i have to see how i go as i may still be pretty tender so getting in and out of the car, trying to carry walking frames, cleaning might still be abit of a challange. its abit of a play it by each day after 2-3 weeks and just not pushing it otherwise the internal sutures can open and that will mean they have to go back in and redo it all over again.

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Please take it easy. Knowing you, you'll be up and about and working in no time! @outlander

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id like to try and go for abit of a walk tomorrow @tyme
its still a struggle to stand for to long but i think a wander might be nice. the only problem is where i am its quite hilly so i had planned to drive to a street thats abit more flat but it is hard cause i cant drive!
i also tried to start my car today and the battery is completely dead so im taking that as a sign that if i want to walk to just do the little bit thats flat before the hill. its probably about 300 metres from my driveway to the bottom of the hill so might be a good start

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hey @Emelia8
how are you today?

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How many days haven't you used the car? @outlander

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since tuesday @tyme so gotta get a jump start or new battery. will try a jump start first before coughing up more money i dont have lol.
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