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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Thats fair enough @outlander

All the sentimental things are hard to pack up and divide between family. I guess it was easy with my Nan and Pop. I was the only one who valued those things, my cousins and brother didn't really want anything.

There will be things that you want to keep, that remind you of your Nan and Pop. Especially since you were so close to them too, some things might not be worth a lot money wise but are worth a lot in our hearts. Some things we cannot put a price on.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i wont be offerring anything to many considering we dont see them anyway. it would only be his kids. i will probably keep most of the ornaments that are a symbol of the grandkids even if i just have them in storage for a little while. @Snowie
some things can go though but ill see what the family want first and then whatevers left over can be donated

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Thats good that you will be able to keep the things you want @outlander

I'm sure the donation places are happy to take anything.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Have you been up to much today? @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Went to the supermarket this morning @outlander other than that just been at home under my weighted blanket. Everyone is out atm so just home by myself.

Have you got much on tomorrow?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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do you find the weighted blanket helpful @Snowie i considered getting one but i get hot quite easily.

i am just doing the horses tomorrow and have work tomorrow night. i was going to go for a walk but my pain levels arent allowing me atm so i might sit on the chair and continue cleaning the cupboards in the kitchen

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I love my weighted blanket @outlander I don't find it overly hot and use it in the summer time too.

I find the weight really helps in keeping me grounded and safe at times.

It is helping today.

I'm sorry about your pain levels hon and everything that you have been going through. I have been reading along but just have no advice.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@outlander been reading through. I’m glad you had @Snowie to keep you company tonight. Sorry to hear it’s been hard with all the changes, change is never easy. Physical pain can be awful, I’ve been in some today too that I’m actually wondering if I’m come down with something because I feel so stiff. I think that’s one of the reasons why I felt pretty shit with afternoon. I hope you can take care of yourself and slow down a bit if you need to💖🫂. Many people have said paying everyday expenses has become challenging, I know the medical costs add up, both appointments and meds. I wish I could do something to help, but I’m here for you 💖

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Good morning @outlander

Wishing you a good day today, hoping you get a bit done at your house.

Sending lots of love 💌💌

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tymeModerator

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Does your pop's aged care package allow for cleaners? @outlander I'm not sure how it works.

It sounds like a lot for one person. Will pop's children help at all?

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