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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 5:37 pm AEST

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thank you @tyme @Snowie @creative_writer i guess its just overwhelming trying to clean out the house etc. i am also abit lost because im so use to having so many reliant on me and now i have some freedom. with that it is also giving me alot of time to think as well.
i know i have a lot of things i can be doing like continuing to clean out the house etc but at the same time i also done know what to do either. and when i dont have to be cleaning or seeing pop or at work i have nothing or no where to go. ive spend the last 3 days at home till today because i had no where to be except night shift. and money is getting more sparce. i feel like im working alot but i dont seem to be getting anywhere with bills or paying thigns off either. its getting abit frustratring now

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 5:58 pm AEST

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@outlander I can't give any advice but I can listen hon

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:14 pm AEST

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thank you @Snowie

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:35 pm AEST

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how are you @Snowie

its strange not speaking to really anyone except those at work.

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:41 pm AEST

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Not good @outlander

It must feel strange being in the house by yourself. I am assuming it will take awhile to get used to it.

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:44 pm AEST

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it is abit strange @Snowie by the time im use to it i will have to move i think.
this house is so much work. alot more then i anticiated thats for sure. ive only done 2 rooms in 2 weeks.

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:48 pm AEST

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Just take your time with the house @outlander It's not a sprint. I'm sure you have a lot of things to go through each day. If your Pop was like my Pop, he had collected a lot over the years.

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:51 pm AEST

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there is definently alot @Snowie
theyve lived here for nearly 40 years so theres alot of junk being aquired

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SnowieSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:53 pm AEST

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My pop didn't throw anything away when my Grandma passed away @outlander Sounds like your pop was the same.

What are you doing with everything? Selling it, giving it away, relatives taking it?

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outlanderSenior Contributor27 Apr 2024, 6:58 pm AEST

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very much @Snowie well nans stuff was his stuff too really so i can understand but there is still so much junk.

i am giving stuff away where i can and i do weekly dontations to like salvos or somewhere similar for the stuff ive accumulated through the week and/or hasnt been picked up by people through the week.

anything of some value i am selling and putting it aside to help with bills atm or if i see something nice for the next house.

when it gets abit more into it and more into the sentimental items ill see if family want anything like pictures of their own kids or anything thats of sentimental value to them. im leaving that more closer to last though as alot of the sentimental things are all the ornaments around the house that ive grown up with too so im not ready to be boxing those ones yet when ive still got plenty to be doing in the other rooms first

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