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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 4:19 pm AEDT

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That sounds like a wonderful idea @outlander I think you would make an amazing counsellor hon, especially since you have a lived experience.

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outlanderSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 5:17 pm AEDT

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it is an option @Snowie but i also currently enjoy my job as a support worker so im trying to see what i can do in a career form to sort of make it abit of both worlds. i havent decided yet as its to much at the moment. i need to try and take one step at a time starting with permanent placement then a new home and then i can commit more to stuff

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tymeModerator14 Dec 2023, 5:23 pm AEDT

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It's a tough time for many @outlander . I'm glad to hear you have some work over the next few weeks. I'm sure you have been such an asset to the company.

There's so much work out there for support workers. With your experience, care and expertise, I'm sure you'll find something.

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SnowieSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 5:40 pm AEDT

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Your right, you don't have to decide now @outlander There is always time for things down the track anyway. Hopefully work will sort itself out and one less thing you have to worry about.

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outlanderSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 6:23 pm AEDT

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im still going to be keeping in touch with the current boss @tyme justwont be working for her anymore once closed. i have a job interview next week. they know my current boss as well so they are aware that my short time with the company isnt through my fault so at least thats a good thing.

who knows maybe when pops in a home i may not even want to do disability for a while. but i doubt ill ever give up helping people. i do like the idea of helping carers more though. being a carer where i am there is so little help and resources especially for younger carer like me and support workers as well that are struggling with their role. id like to help them more @Snowie

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tymeModerator14 Dec 2023, 6:40 pm AEDT

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Hi @outlander ,

Fair enough. It's hard getting work at this time of the year because services are getting ready to close for a break. I'm glad you have an interview lined up. I didn't know your pop was still with you and not in a home? That must be hard.

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outlanderSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 7:01 pm AEDT

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he was only there for respite @tyme but it actualyl went really well and is asking to go back which is unexpected! hopefully next year there will be a placement.

i can get some extra work with the old workplace but its so toxic it really would be a last resort but maybe over christmas it might help to take a shift here and there just till i find something more secure

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tymeModerator14 Dec 2023, 8:04 pm AEDT

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That's great that he is asking to go back @outlander ! Take that while you can!

I somehow feel that things will eventually fall in place for you. You have such as big heart for everyone. The universe will surely take care of you even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

How's your recovery going?

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outlanderSenior Contributor14 Dec 2023, 9:25 pm AEDT

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@tyme it is a good sign if the family ever stop feuding over it. always arguments over something.

recovery is going ok. it was really rough to start with and ended up with a staph infection but thankfully the antibiotics seem to have worked and now things are healing more. the original treatment seems to have helped as well.

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tymeModerator14 Dec 2023, 9:31 pm AEDT

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@outlander ...argh... family feuds...

Anyway, I'm glad to hear you are better.

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