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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2023, 4:23 pm AEST

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dont really feel like doing assignments @Jynx i only have 2 role plays to do which i cant do till like 2 months away anyway because its booked out and the other one just has an essay to go and i cant be bothered. feels basically pointless

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JynxModerator04 Sept 2023, 4:28 pm AEST

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Maybe today is just a write-off for you @outlander and that's ok! It can be super helpful to spend some downtime just focusing on self-care and self-nurturance to replenish the energy for later.

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2023, 4:30 pm AEST

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still caring for pop and babysitting till 9 @Jynx

i think its past the point of focus on self care. i think something needs to give now not in a years time.

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JynxModerator04 Sept 2023, 4:47 pm AEST

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@outlander have you got much support from your uni? Reasonable Adjustments or some sort of learning support? Sounds like you're pretty burnt out at the moment.

If something could give, what would you want it to be?

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2023, 4:50 pm AEST

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im with tafe and theyve been ok @Jynx im actually nearly finished it and dont really need support with the work. i rpled alot of modules so i was put over a year ahead in assignments and work.

>for pop to be accepted to a home.

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JynxModerator04 Sept 2023, 5:10 pm AEST

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@outlander Mm I can only imagine that caring for your Pop does put pressure on everything else in your life hey. Really hard when it's something outside your control like that.

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2023, 5:20 pm AEST

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yes it sucks @Jynx on top of that a job i dont like. doesnt make life very enjoyable. i went to go for a walk today and i just couldnt make myself get out of the car so i just sat there for over an hour doing nothing.

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JynxModerator04 Sept 2023, 5:30 pm AEST

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@outlander maybe that's exactly what you needed to do hun, nothing at all, by yourself for a time. What are some things you have been enjoying lately?

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2023, 5:54 pm AEST

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nothing @Jynx i find no enjoyment in anything. i normally like walking but not today and my pain levels are elevated which is a good indication that the medical treatment scheduled will be worth it.

but i really dont enjoy anything, everything feels like a chore or something i have to do.

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JynxModerator04 Sept 2023, 6:04 pm AEST

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@outlander double combo burnout and anhedonia. You've got it super rough hun. I hope that the medical treatment can make a difference for you in that regard.

Have you spoken to Carer's Australia at all about what you've got on your shoulders?

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