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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:14 pm AEST

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Does he ever wander off? @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:16 pm AEST

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yes @Captain24

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:20 pm AEST

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That makes it extra hard @outlander. It was nothing for me to get phone calls at all hours to go and find nan as she had taken off. I lived closer than my mum. Plus usually I was the only one that could bring her around.

She also had sundowners so she didn’t sleep and got really angry and violent at night.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:25 pm AEST

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he normally wont wander far from home but when out theres been many times ive needed to call for help to come and find him because even with the security they can say come to coles but he wont remember why or where that shop is in the shopping centre. we have to physically find him. hes wandered down streets while ive been in appts and had to go find him as well.
it really is like having toddlers in the house @Captain24

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:33 pm AEST

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My nans husband had to keep all the doors locked at all times. Sometimes she wouldn’t remember how to unlock them but other times she would. She could really take off when she escaped. She was in her 90’s and it was hard to keep up. Plus around where they lived there was a lot of side streets. @outlander

It is like toddlers you have to watch everything! Nan put butter on the tv screen.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:37 pm AEST

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its tough @Captain24 i keep spare keys in the car because ive been locked out a few times or the opposite and the doors left open so now i triple check everything before i leave

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Captain24Senior Contributor03 Sept 2023, 7:45 am AEST

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That’s so hard @outlander.

Im hoping the rest of your shift went ok and today is slightly better for you

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Sept 2023, 12:48 pm AEST

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Hoping today goes well for you @outlander

Sending lots of love 💜💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Sept 2023, 3:56 pm AEST

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thanks @Captain24 @Snowie

todays been ok so far. just celebrating fathers day and taking pop around to see his family. im at work now but hes staying with family till i finish as theyre going out for dinner with some of them.
only have one client here at the moment and hes entertaining himself as hes been out all day. the other is out with his family for fathers day with no known time home but the longer hes out the better lol.

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Captain24Senior Contributor03 Sept 2023, 4:07 pm AEST

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Im glad today has been ok and it’s cruisy at work for you. @outlander. It’s so good that you have a small break from your pop. It’s a shame though that you have to be at work

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