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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:41 pm AEST

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Im guessing no one will help you for a week for a break? @outlander.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:45 pm AEST

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nope @Captain24 its hard enough getting people to take him for the day

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:49 pm AEST

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That’s so frustrating @outlander

Have you got him on the waiting list for a nursing home?

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:50 pm AEST

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yes i have him on a couple @Captain24 but it might take a year if not longer but i wont last till then

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:57 pm AEST

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That’s rough @outlander. I know how hard it is. When my nans husband said he couldn’t do it anymore we called an ambulance and they took her to hospital and the hospital sorted out a nursing home.

You said you won’t last until then… what will you do? What does this look like?

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 7:58 pm AEST

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i dont know @Captain24 im seeing his specialist on tuesday so ill ask to speak to her privately. maybe she can push things along

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:01 pm AEST

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Be honest with her.. tell her your mental health is really suffering @outlander. Is it just you and pop that goes to the appt or do others go?

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:04 pm AEST

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@Captain24 its his 6 monthly review so gets all the tests etc redone and a check in. its just me and him.

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Captain24Senior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:10 pm AEST

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How bad is his dementia? @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Sept 2023, 8:11 pm AEST

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moderate @Captain24
cant leave him alone for any longer then an hour and thats debatable most days except very early when i know hes asleep till 7/730/8 and i have a chance to run and feed horses or go for a walk

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