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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 11:32 am AEST

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I’m at home today @Snowie I hate being here. It’s so windy and cold here though. I’ve already been and done the horses so I’m home now. I have some assignments that I need to do but I can’t be bothered and I don’t have the mental space to do it. I’m bored but I don’t feel like doing anything. I was going to go for a walk new r the beach but I’m waiting on someone to pick something up and will more then likely be a no show meaning a day wasted at home

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 11:49 am AEST

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I can understand being bored @outlander but at the same time struggling to do anything. It is hard to deal with both aspects. Motivation is just damm hard.

I hope you can still get to go for a walk.

It is cold and wet here today.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 3:35 pm AEST

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I went for a walk @Snowie I managed **ks today. It’s so windy here but sunny. [edited by moderator]

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 3:52 pm AEST

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Well done @outlander that is great work. **ks is a lot of walking! [edited by moderator]

Haven't been of the couch except to pick kids up from school.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 3:54 pm AEST

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my goal is to reach **ks even if i only do it once @Snowie [edited by moderator]

i wish i could feel comfortable in my house where i could stay on my lounge for a while. i dont think i even made it half an hour home alone before i left here again

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 3:59 pm AEST

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Having a goal is a great idea hon @outlander ***ks is a lot of walking!

I'm sorry you don't feel comfortable in your own home. Maybe it will be different when you get a place of your own.

I just haven't been able to motivate myself. Seems to be happening more lately.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 4:07 pm AEST

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I want to reach that goal because 2 years ago I couldn’t even walk @Snowie I don’t walk that far that often I can usually manage **ks I’m depending on the day and pain and energy levels but I want to reach ***ks to prove they disabilities don’t define you.

I really hope when I have a place of my own I can create a safe space. I hate it here.
I have no motivation either but I just can’t seem to stop! I have to keep moving and doing something till I exhaust myself to the point I have to sleep

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 4:14 pm AEST

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Creating a safe space is something we all need @outlander I think it is important to have whether it is at home or some place else.

That is a great way of looking at your walking hon. No it shouldn't define us. You have come a long way in a short time.

It is strange how we each cope with our motivation in different ways.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 4:22 pm AEST

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I don’t have anywhere @Snowie that’s probably part of my breakdowns. If I had somewhere safe to go I think I would be able to come home and be ok even if it’s short times to start with.
I have to learn to cope and do calming things. That’s what my psychologist wants time to try and work on with a support worker who I get along with so I feel safer to sit and colour in or something that I can do quietly and not like a bull running at a gate 24/7

I’m only able to walk because of the medica treatment I received last year and will get again this year. It has really helped me out. I still have flare ups and have daily pain and trauma etc but I didn’t know whether I was ever going to be able to walk and live a normal life. That treatment really helped turn that aspect around for me

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 Aug 2023, 4:53 pm AEST

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I'm glad the treatment helped @outlander and you are able to have a life.

Perhaps some safe things to do will help in the meantime until you are able to have that safe space.

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