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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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its ok @Captain24 its just hard when theres no family or friend supports to utilise. if i had those it would be easy for me. the treatment would be the hardest part but at least when i got back home i wouldnt be isolated or needing to rely on hired supports to help me out if that makes sense. it was more expensive last year because i had to pay for pops supports while i was away too but this year he will be going to respite so in a way its expensive but not as bad as last year. i had to pay a fair in excess for pop but not this year

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Captain24Senior Contributor

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At least you have respite so that will also be a weight off your mind @outlander knowing that he is properly looked after.

I don't expect an answer if you aren’t comfortable. What is wrong with your pop?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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he has dementia and mobility issues @Captain24

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Captain24Senior Contributor

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oh @outlander. That’s so hard.. my nan had dementia. It’s a cruel disease. Her husband cared for her until it was impossible. I really understand the 24hr care required. My respect for you has grown even more.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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ive been doing it for almost 10 years now @Captain24 its very tiring but enoughs enough. time to move on and get him the support required that i cant provide any more

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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its nice your still here @tyme

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

Seeing someone with dementia is so hard @outlander @Captain24 , let alone being the the sole carer. It's not easy. I take my hat off to you @outlander .

The confusion they can have is so upsetting sometimes. The care they need becomes more.

When I've worked with people with dementia, I find that it's about just giving them the quality of life in the then and now. Go with what they say. Laugh with them, celebrate with them, cry with them.

At the same time @outlander , you are young. You have your own health conditions. You deserve support.

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Captain24Senior Contributor

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It gets to the point that you just can’t do it. @outlander. 10 yrs is a long time. You have done very well. You have gone above and beyond.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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it is hard @tyme and its even harder when you live with them so your constantly working. you dont get to leave work at work its always with you if you get what i mean.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Captain24 i guess someone had to step up
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