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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Captain24Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 9:33 am AEST

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I’m so sorry @outlander. It just sounds so miserable for you right now. I wish I could take some of it away for you. My heart really goes out to you today. You do so much for others.

Are you able to try and get some sleep before your shift or do you just have too much to do at home?

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 9:49 am AEST

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im not really that tired, well i am but not really. i spent the last 3 days before yesterday sleeping off migraines with stong pain killers so i dont really want to sleep but i also do. sorry that probably makes no sense lol.

no i have to go do grocery shopping and pick up some office stuff and the horses and then get to work as well. im not really up for it but i guess i have to.

im also trying to find another job because the hours im able to work right now at my current workplace wont sustain much at all for very long so looks like ill now have to get a secon job on top of looking after family and my original job.

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Eve7Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 10:03 am AEST

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Good morning @outlander , I really hope you can get through everything on your list today. Please look after you my friend.

Lots of love ❤️

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Captain24Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 10:06 am AEST

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I kinda get it @outlander its like you want to sleep but sick of being asleep?

I really don’t know how you do everything you do. My hat goes off to you. I’m in awe of how you manage to just keep pushing through with so much you are going through yourself.

A second job on top of everything else must be so hard. Do your family help at all or is it just all up to you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 10:09 am AEST

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thank you @Eve7

if i can get my groceries and office shopping done ill be happy. the office stuff i can actually take to work as its only planners so i can see where im working, have appts and where im able to work etc so itll be helpful if i can get there.

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 10:13 am AEST

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yeah i feel like ive been sleeping forever and trying to recover @Captain24 which has been good but i also need to get to work so if i can manage the headache then ill be going. i need to save me leave for the end of the year.

i guess in a way im just use to doing everything. ive always had to step up or had responsibilities that have been put on me without a choice so in a way as hard as it is ive sort of adapted to the drama. i cant wait till it ends though. every small step is another piece of the puzzle.
i have to constantly ask family for help but its only 2-3 people helping within the same family unit so its not always fair but i also need to work and earn a living too.
90% of it is all up to me. i work my shifts that revolve around taking siblings to school and when i dont have pop or when someone else can look after him so i can work. i make appointments during that time frame too. my life literally revolves around everyone else and when they can 'fit their dad/pop' into their life so i can have a break

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Captain24Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 10:31 am AEST

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I guess 2 or 3 family members is a little help. @outlander. It’s a shame most of it has landed in you. I’m glad that you have a goal in place and are slowly getting there with each step. At least it’s a step closer.

I hope you get what you need to done and that your head settles so you can get to work.

You have a very kind heart!

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 11:26 am AEST

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thanks @Captain24

ive gone and gotten my office stuff so i can take it to work to sort out while im there.
just waiting on my click and collect grocery shop to be done now so i can go get that. should be ready within the next half hour and then heading to work.
ive taken some otc pain meds for my headache to help it stop from becoming a migraine but i think ill be back to the drs next week again to get a check over. i cant believe the headache is back. im just hoping that it goes back away again and doesnt turn into another cluster

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 12:39 pm AEST

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groceries picked up and put away. lunch sorted out and now ready for work. at least i feel like ive done something today. @Captain24 @Eve7 i have a couple of tasks to do at work so hopefully will make the time go abit quicker today in amongst the normal shift duties. my leg is super sore though its making it hard to do very much but im on a easy going shift in general so it shouldnt be to bad

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Captain24Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 1:43 pm AEST

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I’m glad you have a sense of accomplishment @outlander.

I hope the OTC work for you. I may be of kilter here. and feel free to tell me so, but have you ever had your neck checked?

Here’s hoping it’s a quick and easy shift for you and you can get done what you need.

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