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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 9:32 pm AEST

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yeah itll be positive when i get to move forward @tyme but its also scary at the same time. its bene my lifestyle for as long as i can remember its basically ingrained in me

the idea of being out on my own, needing to work more, not rely on anyone else, having freedom moving to my own place etc is abit overwhelming to think about all while trying to still get my debts paid in a hurry as well to make sure im not having unneccessary expenses as well.
and i still have alot to sort out as well and find a home for pop and sort through family as well as the court date in october as well. its a litte overwhelmig

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 9:37 pm AEST

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I hear you @outlander . It's a lot for one person. I'm still quite surprised that everyone has left it all to you.

Pretty much your life has been on hold.

I can be scary, but we are here to help you navigate it.

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 9:44 pm AEST

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I guess it’s just the way it’s always been @tyme it’s normal for me to handle everything on my own.

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 9:54 pm AEST

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It's good to consider if that's what you want, and if not, what you can do about it @outlander .

You're young. You've got a life ahead of you. By all means, if you are comfy and content with how things are, please know that that's also okay.

I'm off for the evening now to have some offline time. We'll chat later in the week. Please take care.

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SnowieSenior Contributor31 July 2023, 10:55 am AEST

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@outlander 💗💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor31 July 2023, 5:53 pm AEST

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thanks @tyme i do want to reduce my responsibilities to the family. its not a comfy and content place to be with so much always happening and always so many roles that i have to play and its always so dramatic and stressful. its time for change but the change its also very scary and nerve wracking thinking of whats ahead, the hurdles still to overcome and then when the time finally happens, basically starting a new life

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outlanderSenior Contributor31 July 2023, 5:53 pm AEST

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@Snowie

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outlanderSenior Contributor31 July 2023, 6:10 pm AEST

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im going to see my specialist tomorrow, its the first time ive gone this trip alone though so im quite nervous about it. i forget how far away from home it is sometimes

its 3 and a half hour drive, and hour appointment and then another 3 and a half hour drive sometimes abit longer because ill be heading back when everyone is starting to leave home for work so it might be 4 and a half hours back like last time

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2023, 10:10 am AEST

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@Snowie @tyme @Birdofparadise8 @Eve7 @hanami @Bow @Appleblossom @Sans911 @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @Owlunar @creative_writer @Captain24 @Shaz51 @Jynx @Emelia8 @Exoplanet @Bunniekins

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2023, 10:18 am AEST

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Hey @fluffylight 😊 how are you

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