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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 7:28 pm AEST

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So what's the next step now? @outlander

Will you look for a place for him?

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 7:30 pm AEST

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i have to wait until i go to court in a couple of months to become a legal guardian @tyme
i can put his name down for placement but i cant accept a spot until after the court date
until then i basically just cope and do what i can

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 7:36 pm AEST

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Does it take long to get a spot? @outlander

Hope it all goes well. Court sounds a bit nerve-racking. I haven't had any experiences with courts. Do you know what is going to happen in court?
(Sorry if I sound so ignorant)

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 7:56 pm AEST

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im not sure it can take a while sometimes @tyme but being lower care its not as long as high care

yes i pretty much sit down with NCAT and trustees and basically give evidence ass to why i want to be his gurdian and give evidence thats what ive been doing and capable etc then they have a half hour break to decide and then they let me know

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 8:13 pm AEST

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Fair enough @outlander . Hope it goes well. Does anyone else have to attend? Like what happens if a certain family member doesn't want you to have that authority? How do they know everyone is okay with it?

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 8:28 pm AEST

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no it can be done on the phone @tyme
i honestly dont know. im not telling my family im going for it at this moment.
it can be changed down the track like if i dont want the responsibility i can make an application for another family member to take over.

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 8:39 pm AEST

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im abit worried @tyme

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 8:58 pm AEST

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Worried about the process @outlander ?

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 July 2023, 9:09 pm AEST

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no @tyme more about life after i guess

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tymeModerator30 July 2023, 9:19 pm AEST

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It hear it will open the doors a lot wider once care has been arranged for pop. I can see how it can be a scary thing. Sometimes, caring for others can be comforting to know you are needed, but then that reduces, it's a scarier world out there. I know you said you wanted to move forward in life.

It sounds like you have a lot of organise things start moving forward.... like the house @outlander

Am I on the right track? Sorry if this is not what you are referring to.

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