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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:51 pm AEST

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to be honest @Eve7 no not really

i feel like that part of my life is slipping away too. im usually ok once i get there but its the getting there thats the hard part. i dont really feel very helpful anymore. like a big part of me doesnt really know what to do with myself even though i know what im doing with the horses but i just stand back these days and still feel lost with that too. i got offerred to join in on a couple of the rides with borrowed horses and i turned it down. it feels unusual for me to do that. maybe when i dont have so many responsibilities on my plate it might make a difference

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:53 pm AEST

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im trying @Snowie i guess thats a start

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:58 pm AEST

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@outlander I think with anything we do in life that the first few steps are always the hardest for us.

The main thing is that you have started to move forward with your life. It wasn't going to be easy for you, but that is where you show so much strength and courage in doing it.

Baby steps hon 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 6:00 pm AEST

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ive been saying and trying to get out of this situation for so long @Snowie i guess i knew it wasnt going to be easy but i thought it would feel better. it doesnt though

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 6:28 pm AEST

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Perhaps you just need to give yourself some time @outlander It is still so very raw and new for you. It is easy to second guess ourselves too. Thinking if we have made the right decision or not.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 6:50 pm AEST

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i havent really been able to make many changes yet @Snowie the day program is up and running but it also means that i cant work because he wont be able to come to work and no ones around to pick him up before the day centre closes so it still doesnt make it any different for me except that itll give me time to make appointments or clean or do whatever while hes not at home.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 6:51 pm AEST

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its going to be a big change for my mother who keeps using my dryer and has the house full of her junk. im not removing any more so once all this happens she will either have to take the house or move her crap out. again i have to give up my spare room and shed for her to put her crap in it

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 7:14 pm AEST

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I understand that there are not many changes yet for you @outlander but hopefully they will come with time. I'm guessing your mum will have to make some big decisions for herself.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 7:19 pm AEST

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yes like using her own house for storage and not mine @Snowie thatll be a good start.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 7:21 pm AEST

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i think tuesday will be on of the bigger turning points. itll give me the paperwork and codes to then be able to contact nursing homes to go into the waitlists @Snowie @Eve7 @tyme

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