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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 10:33 am AEST

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its horses @Snowie so itll probably be a nice reset then i get monday off before the work week and craziness starts all over again

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 10:48 am AEST

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I hope Sunday goes well for you @outlander Sunday will probably go fast for you too, if it is something you enjoy.

Glad to hear you have Monday off to recover a bit.

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Eve7Senior Contributor22 July 2023, 12:01 pm AEST

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Thinking of you today @outlander I hope today is a bit better for you.

🩵🩵🩵

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 12:51 pm AEST

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horses done and i cleaned up my fron carport and verandah. just have to finish the front yard but that can wait. theres not much to do now except put a couple of things in the trailor and ive got someone else mowing the yard for me next week so its one less thing i need to spend energy doing.

just waiting for pop to finish lunch now and then go to work

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:23 pm AEST

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the shift is going abit quicker today @tyme @Snowie @Eve7 but not really quick enough. 4 and a half hours to go.

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:29 pm AEST

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Can keep you company for awhile @outlander if that helps

Are you almost half way through your shift?

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Eve7Senior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:29 pm AEST

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I’m glad it’s going quick for you @outlander

Im here for you 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:33 pm AEST

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yep about half a shift @Snowie @Eve7

im trying to study but i cant really be bothered. ive done all my shift duties just have a couple things here and there like putting the dishes away when washer is done and folding the clothes when dryers done. clients are occupying themselves at the moment.

i feel like im loosing more and more of my identity but im so tired. i cant keep fighting and i need a life. i knew it was going to be hard but its harder then i thought

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Eve7Senior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:42 pm AEST

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I am sorry it feels that way @outlander and I wish I could say something more helpful other than “I hear you”.

At least you have the hardest tasks completed for your shift.

Are you looking forward to being with the horses tomorrow?

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 5:51 pm AEST

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You deserve to have a life hon outside of what you currently have @outlander

Others have relied on you for too long. It is time others took on that responsibility.

No doubt it is hard, but you are making the right decisions for you.

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