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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 7:48 pm AEST

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Will be a good start @outlander Perhaps the responsibility can be put back onto her and not you. You deserve to live the life that you want.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 8:01 pm AEST

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hope so @Snowie she already knows that when hes in a home im giving up the house and house sharing with someone else. i just really need to get these debts sorted out. i cant move into another place or be a burden on someone else. i need to be able to work, be independent and not rely on anyone else financially or need to keep getting loans. 2 of the loans i just paid back werent even mine though, i took them out for mother and step dad who was suppose to pay it back but didnt. wont be doing that again.

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SnowieSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 8:34 pm AEST

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That's sad about the loans hon @outlander Parents are meant to help their kids out, not the other way around.

It sounds like for a lot of the time that you have been the adult. I just pray for you that everything goes well for you. We will be here for you through all of it.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2023, 8:41 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie

this shift has really been dragging along now. an hour and a half to go. at least have a couple of days off from here after today. still busy but busy doing other things

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 July 2023, 1:42 pm AEST

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Hey @outlander

I hope you got through the rest of your shift last night and today is going well for you.

Sending lots of 💗💗

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tymeModerator23 July 2023, 1:45 pm AEST

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Hey @outlander ,

I recognise it has been very hard for you the past few days.

How are you today?

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 July 2023, 5:18 pm AEST

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hey @tyme
its been ok. been a very tiring day volunteering

hey @Snowie @Eve7 and everyone

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tymeModerator23 July 2023, 5:56 pm AEST

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Good on you volunteering @outlander . You deserve a good rest.

How are you feeling now?

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 July 2023, 6:02 pm AEST

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im pretty tired @tyme and my headaches are still lingering. its been a couple of weeks now so its becoming abit of an inconvenience.
my pain levels are up a fair bit too. sometimes i forget how much certain things flare up the injuries i have.

im planning on ordering dinner tonight though and chilling out and watching a movie. trying to give my worries the day off and focus on today instead

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 July 2023, 6:11 pm AEST

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@outlander 💕💕

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