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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor15 June 2023, 4:08 pm AEST

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Thats good if you can take things in with you @outlander to keep yourself occupied. Hopefully that makes the time go faster for you.

Hope you are able to get some sleep at some stage.

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outlanderSenior Contributor15 June 2023, 6:35 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie
have some invasive appointments in the morning so not looking forward to those. just need them over and done with and then i can have a sleep in the arvo or just have an early dinner and go to bed

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SnowieSenior Contributor16 June 2023, 3:56 pm AEST

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Hi @outlander

I hope your appointments went well and that you got some sleep hon.

Sending love 💗💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 June 2023, 5:12 pm AEST

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havent been asleep yet @Snowie got about an hour or so of dozing overnight but thats about it. think ill be in bed early.
have a couple of medications that i need to now take and a couple of tests across next couple of weeks before another review

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SnowieSenior Contributor17 June 2023, 10:53 am AEST

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Hopefully the medications help and things continue to heal @outlander and you got some sleep last night hon.

Sending good vibes for today 💌💌

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 June 2023, 12:12 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie im not really having a very good day. i dont feel like going to work but i guess i have to now

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 June 2023, 7:09 pm AEST

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im so conflicted. i dont know what to do.

i really want to move out of home and start building a life im more proud of but at the same time i worry how that will go especially for grandfather. i know who will take over and he doesnt want that to happen.
im trying to be so patient but its been a year now since someone moved in without permission but being family i cant just kick them out and its not my house either.

i know itll be harder moving out onto my own but everything i do or own ive had to work for. i have a steady job with the opportunity to do even more work with other companies, im nearly finished paying of my car and by the end of the year any loans etc will also be paid off and my car will be done in another year.
i feel like im forever circling the drain but alot could also be avoided by having my own space and less responsibility toward the family and stuff like that

i dont really know what to do at this point. i feel like i need to get out but i cant abandon family either even though i know its not really my responsibility or should be

@Snowie @Eve7 @Appleblossom @tyme @Shaz51 @Sans911 @Owlunar @Bow @Sophia1 @Bunniekins do you guys have any advice

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Shaz51Senior Contributor17 June 2023, 7:36 pm AEST

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Ohh @outlander I know it is seems to be going on forever

But I am soo proud of you having a job., all the studying you have done , the caring you do for your pop and have nearly paid off your car , way to go xxx

And you are still young to start a plan for the future that you want and deserve 🥰

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 June 2023, 8:26 pm AEST

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thanks @Shaz51 i might still be young and have a whole life ahead but its also going quickly and everyone around me is succeeding in basic things and yet some days i struggle to even get out of bed. its like i can feel a mentla breakdown comig but i dont know how to stop it because there is no escape from anything

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Shaz51Senior Contributor17 June 2023, 8:34 pm AEST

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Yes I am feeling that my @outlander , you and I both need some self care

I am 59 this month and even though my mum is in hospital full time , I still involved every second day seeing to her

And Mr shaz says he like to do things but I feel like I am tied down , and Mr shaz has still 3 years to retirement

My medical team has put me on the DSP

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