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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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In response to: not coping

Unknown userMember02 June 2022, 9:54 pm AEST

Re: not coping

Hi @outlander

My name is Sirius, I'm one of the new peer support workers here–nice to meet you 😊. I can hear you've had a hard time today and that your family are adding another layer of complexity on top of it all. I want to acknowledge the strength it takes to reach out for support. If you're open to the suggestion, it might help to reach out to those in your inner circle you feel comfortable talking to (i.e. a trusted friend, a trusted GP or a mental health worker, such as a counsellor).

If you're open to a 1-on-1 chat with a counsellor, the SANE help centre is open from 10am-10pm Mon-Fri and the number is: 1899 187 263. All our counsellors are trained to provide a judgemental and confidential session with the opportunity to explore your challenges and provide strategies for longer term help.

Please go gently with yourself @outlander. 💜

Sirius✨

In response to: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor02 June 2022, 9:55 pm AEST

Re: not coping

the only person who has stayed on my side is mum @Eve7 so now i just wander round or drive around and sit at parks in my spare time for space . hard not having a 'home' to go to. it use to be my home but now its just a house.

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tymeModerator02 June 2022, 9:57 pm AEST

Re: not coping

@outlander wrote:
forcing myself to relax just doesnt work well for me.
im not to sure why that it is though

Hey @outlander ,

I used to think that too! I'm not sure if it is about forcing yourself to relax. I always thought mindfulness was to help relax you and make you feel sleepy. But supposedly it's not. If anything, it's about making your mind more aware and about directing your attention on something. Perhaps this in turn gives the misconception that it is to 'relax'? Perhaps it makes you not focus on the painful side of things?

I'm not sure. I've still go lots to learn!

tyme