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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Eve7Senior Contributor30 Apr 2022, 5:59 pm AEST

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I had surgery on my foot last week and now I’m in rehab for a couple of weeks @outlander.

I have physio every day so hopefully that will sort out my recovery.

I didn’t realised you’d moved out of home. I won’t ask questions but I really hope this leads to a brighter future

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 Apr 2022, 7:00 pm AEST

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oh dear @Eve7 hopefully recovery goes well

no i havent moved out of home. im just staying somewhere else atm. pops not at home and i cant stand the person in my house so im staying elsewhere atm

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Eve7Senior Contributor30 Apr 2022, 7:45 pm AEST

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That’s not good @outlander Just when you could have had some peace at home you’ve had to move out. So sorry

😫

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 Apr 2022, 7:53 pm AEST

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yeah she a long lost relative so to speak @Eve7 havent seen her for over 10 years (might be close to about 15 years actually) and decided to just move in and take over everything. no one else can see how shes taken over everything because its been done so subtley like cleaning the house (but in reality what shes been doing has been making room for herself and basically getting rid of things she shouldnt be getting rid of. and just being in the way all the time. no one else sees that though and no one talks to me anymore. since shes been here ive heard so much bad stuff come out of her like blaming me for pops fracture when i wasnt even there and it wasnt anything to do with anyone! and apparently none of the family like talking to me because i take over and yet it doesnt seem to matter how much help i ask for theres no one there until she rocked on up but its not to see me its to see her and pop.
see - just an entity floating around that means nothing hey.
i even found out today that my uncle msged my great uncle asking how pop is instead of talking to me and we live 5 minutes from each other. the great uncle lives more like 6 hours away from here closer to where pops in hospital atm but even the great uncle said they should be talking to me.
i cant walk away from pop but the way its going im just going to be pushed out whether i like it or not.

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 Apr 2022, 8:00 pm AEST

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hey @Appleblossom

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor01 May 2022, 12:54 am AEST

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Hey Bella @outlander Its a difficult situation. Sorry so much is going on.Family relationships can be so complicated.

Self care Self Care.

Your new life can evolve. Find a way to make it work for you, thinking forward, more than behind..

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 May 2022, 5:18 pm AEST

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Thanks @Appleblossom
im planning on getting a new car soon and once ive finalised paying off a new car im going to try and go for a home loan and try and buy my own home

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor01 May 2022, 6:04 pm AEST

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Sound like good plans @outlander

I do not think "younger carer" protocols have been properly worked out yet. I know for me it was not, and I have not heard a whole heap of worthwhile stuff about it. Know you did your best, and it is no longer your responsibility now. Hope you meet some more people closer to your age who are good for you.

The circle of what we can control and what we cannot.

You probably know all this stuff ...but I often find it helps to return to old ideas ...

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SnowieSenior Contributor02 May 2022, 5:18 pm AEST

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Hi @outlander

Glad to hear your surgery went ok.

Sounds like you have lots going on at the moment.

Sitting here with you sis 💌💌

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 May 2022, 11:53 pm AEST

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is anyone around to talk to?

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