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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 10:25 pm AEDT

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Now. Breathe and say after me

”I am in control of my life. I deserve every good opportunity that comes my way!”

💙❤️💙❤️💙❤️💙

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Sans911Senior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 10:39 pm AEDT

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Wow and wow @outlander. These are BIG changes. I understand that these have been coming for a while now. How do think you'll manage full time work with her health issues?

I think it's great that you are going out on your own. I have no doubt you will just be just fine. You have a very smart and sensible head on your shoulders.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 11:12 pm AEDT

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@Eve7 💜💛💜💛

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Sans911Senior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 11:12 pm AEDT

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Perfect @Eve7

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 11:14 pm AEDT

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They are very big changes @Sans911 ones that were coming also ones i didnt want to happen yet.
I dont know how ill manage, specially the health conditions but ill have to try somehow.
I wont be moving within at least another month or 2 yet but i have plans in place, itll just be a process

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Sans911Senior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 11:34 pm AEDT

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The only way you'll know how things are going is to jump feet first. It might not all work out okay, but it might be the best thing also. You know @outlander I'm in my 50s and I don't always get life right even now. I'm struggling financially, bills behind. I'm probably spending on unnecessary stuff. But then it rights itself for a bit. There is much you have to learn about life yet, but you've also been thrust into responsibilities far earlier than was necessary.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Apr 2022, 11:37 pm AEDT

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Yeah ive just paid off all my debts except one @Sans911 but i can double repayments and have it paid off in a few weeks rather then a few months now. Ill be saving for a bond and new furniture after that

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor03 Apr 2022, 1:02 am AEDT

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Sounds like you are sensible and planning well. @outlander No surprise. There are always issues in life, but it seems good timing for you to get more independent and for pop to get supported by others. Age appropriate and all that for both of you.

Let it unfold. You have held back and deserve good things.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor03 Apr 2022, 6:18 am AEST

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Wow, @outlander ! Two huge decisions! One sounds like you are moving out of your Pop's house...I am sooo glad to hear that! He is abusive and treats you like crap, and it's time for you to focus on yourself I reckon. I will be sending wishes that you can find a place to rent (it's not easy, the rental market is so tight).

Am really happy for you, @outlander ! 💙

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Apr 2022, 3:33 pm AEST

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@outlander sounds like some big changes are happening in your life sis. I hope for your sake that things go well and you can sort everything out over the coming months. We will be here for you anytime you needs us hon 💗

@Sans911 So glad to see you back on here hon. I hope things are going ok for you. Sending lots of love your way 💕💕

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