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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 youve not triggerred me, never have
are you okay? i hope i havent upset you, youve not upset me, never have i doubt ever will. i dont find you overwhelming at all

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im not very good at explaining things but hopefully makes sense... moon boot (or maybe you know it as a walking boot...? goes by a few names...) its like a support for your foot and lower leg so that if you have a break or a torn ligament/tendon, we can still get around but without having to be on crutches. the foot is supported and the pressure is basically taken off the joints etc.. does that kinda make sense... sorry im not to good at explaining some of these things. maybe look up moon boot/walking boot it might bring up some pics to help with my explaination... @Sophia1

atm im trying to do washing when needed but atm cause i cant get down the stairs i can only do a small load and hang it up on those clothes horse thingys, and definently the wetter areas. i really dont want to have mould happen

pop helps to do the vaccuming though and the dishes but i have to often rewash stuff cause she doesnt scrub or anything. he kinda thinks rinsing under hot water classes them as clean 😬

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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and @Sophia1 you are also one of my long time beautiful supporters

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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all good @outlander my dear...

will always support you just feeling vulnerable...

thank you of course you have not offended me..

I find that I am better placed to stay within certain boundaries even within the forums...I know that you follow this theory also which is healthy...

can still be hurt when feeling that might have been used... reality trigger..

reset boundaries yet again...ongoing isn't it...

I do hope that your friend whom you are missing is alright also...

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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oh bless

your pop is helping you...

that was part of one of my mysterious posts catching up re uncertain re your family circumstances..

yes am familiar with moon boot...husband's family member wore one...

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 😘

im still carer for him, but tbh i dont really know for hoe much longer. we're always butting headsand my own mental health is really starting to suffer. ive taken to going to my horses to study just for some time away. lock down has made it much harder too cause i cant just drop him over to a friend or family members house and they cant come here so make it tricky. he can get very angry sometimes and likes to taste things out on me verbally

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jem80Senior Contributor

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@outlander

Good to hear that your doing your best, that's all that you can ask of yourself.

I think I'm going to have my passionfruit slice and watch a little tv. Going ok.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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that sounds yummy @jem80

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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@outlander

It has been a while since we have conversed.

I am considered an unpaid carer and am a member of carers australia...

sorry cannot be bothered with capitals and punctuation at moment...

He is I hope under ongoing assessment with not only gp but a specialist in the field of dementia...

I have a friend who has alzheimers and through the public health system sees a specialist via referral from doctor...

Aggression and hostility are symptoms of dementia or alzheimers...

You should not have to be dealing with with this on your own..

Are you a member of Carers Australia?

They have a group for young carers which probably has the best support out of all of the groups of carers and so should be...at the same time not diminishing the intensity of stress and strain on other age groups of carers..

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i think i am considered unpaid too? @Sophia1 from my understanding if you get the carers payments through the government we are classed as unpaid, though im not to sure...


pop sees a specialist too, she is pretty good. she gives me a chance to talk to her alone and the nurse who does all thr obs etc for the routine checkups to also help with his other medical conditions lets me talk to her too.

i have had death threats put to me before but that was a while ago and his drs etc know as well. back then we made like a safety plan so if anything happens theres things i can do and if all else fails then get out of the house. thankfully none of those incidents in at least 8 months or maybe even longer now.
im a member of Carers australia and also young carers as well
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