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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

Re: not coping

are Carers australia and young carers blah blah aware of this situation and what actual help are they providing?

I attended a meeting yesterday with different representatives and the overall feeling is that they are not there for us...

how do you feel?

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

Re: not coping

Can we continue this conversation tomorrow without diminishing the content @outlander ?

I have been out with Carers today and yesterday..

I also have older son ongoing and am now feeling need to just chill out...

I know that you will relate and understand...

Tag me though as overload brings on fog...

I do want to keep in touch with you not that I can really offer much more...at the same time do not want to come across as telling you what you should do...as that is the last thing that carers need..

yet that is what I have been doing isn't it..

oh goodness...

I shall speak to you soon'

love

Sophia 1

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i dont talk to them tbh. i tend to just go on and search for information on what i need or services that are local to me. i havent really been one to be involved in the meetings or group outings. i feel weird going to those, and just didnt like it or wasnt for me. at my age i kinda feel like i dont really fit in. the young carers are often associated with teens and the carers aust tends to be for older people. not many really seem to relate to the taking on a carer role for a grandparent its usually a mum dad partner or their child (both grown or young)

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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of course @Sophia1 can talk whenever you like. im not going anywhere. has been nice chatting to you.
i think ill finish my tea and head to bed soon. havent been sleeping much so maybe if i go to bed earlier i can rest abit at least..

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

Re: not coping

understand @outlander

I do not relate to many of the different groups either...

I think that it is a good outcome ...oh hate that word...decision on your part for realising that the fit is not right for you.

There are many groups which do not fit all..

I feel the same...

I have actually created our own group as there are changes within the hills that we live...Was doing well...changes with personalities who like to control leaving...yeah...now more changes...

who knows ....

I will continue to vie to keep a group going with amicable people..

you in the meantime have to mend...

no I am not bossing or advising or telling...

merely supporting..

'love you outlander...you excel...

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

Re: not coping

about to head off for some me time

sleep vital @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1
i dont like groups they overwhelm me in person. i can manage a few people esp if im closer but family events i really dont even like attending cause i just dont fit in.
i do make some connections with the work i do with the horses though even if i dont really have friends i am getting abit closer to some people which is nicer. always very weary of it cause i have a habit of stuffing it up so i try to be friends but also from a distance so not to say or do something stupid and wreck it

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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goodnight @Sophia1 ill talk to you tomorrow. just tag me when your online, i will probably pop in and out between studying

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Eve7Senior Contributor

Re: not coping

Good night @outlander

💜💜💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Goodnight @Eve7 hope you sleep well ❤

Will be a while before i sleep by looks of it
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