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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:01 pm AEST

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That sounds ever so painful @outlander and definitely needs to be seen again. I am so sorry this has happened to you.

Do you think this has triggered your anxiety and depression?

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:03 pm AEST

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yeah i think ill get it checked again, i can book in on thursday so might do it then if i can @Eve7 have to work around babysitting too now cause they arent at school either

i think its triggerred it abit cause its so frustrating and painful doing anything but other things coming into play abit too i think

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:16 pm AEST

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Do you have any supports? I'm sorry you're having to babysit and probably homeschool at this time.

You do so much for your family, I really hope they show some appreciation to you @outlander I'm having peppermint tea do you want one?

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:18 pm AEST

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working, studying, homeschooling, babysitting and dog sitting @Eve7 all while trying to find space to breathe

dont think they care much, theyve just booked a holiday for 2 of them and the other 2 going away so i didnt get a choice in now having one child and the dog for a few days as well too now at the start of next year

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:26 pm AEST

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Oh @outlander that is so unfair and makes my blood boil hearing how they still take advantage of you. I wish I could come and get you and take you away from such abuse. One day hun you will be well and able to live your own life doing what you want to do.

You are too kindhearted.

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:31 pm AEST

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i didnt get a choice i got 'can you watch ____ and ___ on these dates because ive booked _____ and ____ to go away and ____ and ___ are heading away too
@Eve7

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:46 pm AEST

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I'm so sorry hun but this won't last @outlander

Have a cuppa with me sweetie and let's pretend we're jumping with our black stallions in the bush like the "girl" from Snowy River!

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:48 pm AEST

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lol @Eve7
i cant believe i use to do all this competitively. not this high though but this was my life every weekend

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Eve7Senior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:55 pm AEST

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WOW @outlander how long is it since you have competed?

My eldest gd showjumped for a few years but she has given up now too. She also swam competitively and used to say she'd do the modern pentathlon but I think she's given up on that idea as well. She's going to Uni next year so that will be a shock after doing next to nothing this year lol

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:58 pm AEST

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um geez its prob been around 7 or 8 years since ive done more comepetive ones. @Eve7
not that high though!

not an eventer any more, more of a dressage rider or show hack

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