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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2021, 12:37 pm AEST

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yes definently, not something i would be brave enough to do! @Snowie i have done some cross country courses but nothing that extreme!

im finding it hard to sit down for so long! its unusual for me esp when i have thing i need to do but have to put off. but anything over standing even with that leg resting is to much atm

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SnowieSenior Contributor01 Aug 2021, 12:49 pm AEST

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I did some horse jumping when I was younger but nothing like that. They certainly are remarkable and the horses are just stunning.

Watching the swimming now @outlander

You need to take care of yourself hon, and if that is resting your foot then so be it. I know how hard however it is for you to sit still and do nothing

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2021, 1:16 pm AEST

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yeah my maximum height was 1.2 metres, not going higher then that and that was depending on the horse. i had a friend who done alot of show jumping much higher then that so i knew the horse could clear it if it was set up right or minimal errors anyway.

im waiting for the wind to ease abit and then i have someone teaching me to do injections (her horse is injured so taking the opportunity to learn for furture reference)

i know, i am resting so much. im only doing what i need and sitting or laying down watching movies the rest of the time or studying.

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SnowieSenior Contributor01 Aug 2021, 1:22 pm AEST

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Glad the injections are on a horse hon and not on you @outlander !!

Good to hear that you are resting your foot.

I hope you don't have to go back on Wednesday for more tests on it.

D at work, S in his room so the dog and I are watching some of the Olympics.

Have to get off my butt soon and do some washing and ironing. Kids back at school tomorrow too.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 7:31 am AEST

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@outlander wrote:
my whole body is compensating atm cause of the way i need to walk. its putting so much pressure on both legs that they cramp and tire quite quickly

Oh no 😥 @outlander

Hoping for some relief before Wednesday...

I've been walking and spending time in nature, but only close to the house. I turn 50 in August but my family can't come down for it from NSW as planned, due to the whole Covid mess. That's OK. I don't feel anywhere near 50, lol. I know women who have cut their hair short or changed their style of clothing once they hit 50, but am not going to do anything like that. I'd rather make myself happy than anyone else, in those matters, lol.

Sending lots of good wishes for all your pains and troubles... 💙

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SnowieSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 9:57 am AEST

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Good morning sis @outlander

Wishing you a good day sweetie.

Hoping your foot feels a bit better.

Lots of love and hugs 💗💗💗💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 12:54 pm AEST

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Thanks @NatureLover i will probably go back on wednesday anyway to get it rechecked over.

ive heard that about a few ages as well as 50, usually the major milestone ones like 16 18 21 25 30 40 50 60 and so on. i dont even rmember the last time i had my hair done 😬 you should do something nice for yourself though

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Aug 2021, 12:55 pm AEST