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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Felling bad for her is probably normal hon @outlander You are her sister after all and care about her and have an interest in her life.

Some people find making friends harder then others. Some people enjoy their own company more then having others around them.

I don't make friends easily either.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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me either @Snowie i think thats why i feel bad. i struggle with friendships alot. i do talk to plenty of people. maybe thats why i feel guilty cause im interacting with more people then her when should be other way around.

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I find it really hard to make friends too @outlander I have some friends but none of them are close to me. I don't have a relationship with anyone from school/college.

I am probably not the best person either giving advice on how to make friends and/or keep friends.

It makes it harder through all this lockdown too. People are not interacting as much as they used too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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she does have a bf and a few friends when she makes an effort but yeah i just feel really bad. her friends at school arent that good so makes it hard and the work she has doesnt really have many people either so its harder to amek friends there too

yeah lockdown isnt helping either. i dont know i jsut feel really anxious about it

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I think feeling anxious for her shows how much you care for her hon @outlander

It certainly is an anxious time however with everyhing going on both at home and outside the home too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah thats true @Snowie i dont want them to turn out like me working alone and beng a loner with no one

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Oh hon I don't see you as a loner @outlander but can understand that feeling.

You certainly are not on here sis, but real life can be so different too.

I think also that I am more comfortable by myself and feel anxious around others.

Unfortunately you haven't got much control of how they turn out, you can just support them like you do now.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah i guess so @Snowie just hard i guess. im always stressing that they have friends and are coping ok etc

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I think all you can do is keep being someone they look up too @outlander

I think you do a remakable job as a big sister hon.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im not someone to look up to @Snowie
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