Re: Learning about Relationship Boundaries

@PeppiPatty It's a long story with mum and I, as it is with lots of us I guess. We never had trouble communicating about our feelings to each other. But we were very volatile with each other verbally and emotionally since I was very young. We had a physical fight when I was 16 and trying to leave home (which I did). Even when I succeeded in living independently from that age Mum and I continued to have a very volatile relationship verbally and emotionally over the phone and in person for many years. I got very sick and wanted to suicide when I was about 28. This was when I was being the worst triggered by my parents, both of them. I couldn't handle it anymore and just cut off from them both for several years. During this time mum and I met for coffee a few times is all. It was a death that brought us together properly again. I had to tell my dad about it and so I also decided to contact mum again too, this time for real. I am so relieved that they both forgave me for doing this to them straight away. I had been grieving for them during the absence too. It wasn't instant happy families. But somehow things were different and we were able to move forward and grow from there. I had essentially separate relationships with them because they did not live together, though they never divorced.

and also to @Appleblossom and @Former-Member: If we were all of us around a table together we could have a winking session (silly).

@PeppiPatty Arlo Guthrie?

Course Arlo's welcome .. and @chookmojo's chooks and @Crazy_Bug_Lady's heifer ... and them and other humans too ... but then its maybe not a sisterhood anymore ... I was alwyas hopless at sexing animals ... now that I think about it their animals are girls ... laying aggs and starting studs .... go Girl power.

Is Arlo a girl ... it doesnt matter

Sorry about that lame joke at the end of the last post, which was really serious and from the heart. But somehow it seems okay to talk about serious things with you all and have a laugh too. 🙂

It was serious herstory @Mazarita and I appreciated that you shared it ... I left home at 16 too ... but mum came around within 2 weeks and since then they usually came to eat dinner wherever I was living ... ie the younger kids ...14, 12, 5 ... as they grew up etc

... you can make jokes any time ... and play us some Woody Guthrie on your guitar ...

Life is often a mixture of the tragic and comic ... you know I like Shakespeare... and I like Hannah Gadsby and a few Australian female standups too.

My son says my sense of humour's terrible ... but its almost obligatory for a son to say that.

I like Hannah Gadsby's deadpan style, tend to like deadpan comics in general. I'm going to get ready for bed, take meds, have a snack. Might still be around for a while longer but not sure. If I don't get back here, thanks so much for the chat tonight. Hugs all round.