when is it time for hospital

Thanks @outlander

Yes - do what you have to about setting up things for Thursday - it's really good that you are preparing for this and the fall-out ahead of time

Like yes - there will be fall-out after this one

But you are not causing this - you are not threatening other people's lives - just the way they live their lives - you deserve to live yours the way you choose also

Dec

Yes - hope HOPE HOPE HOPE

Don't let go of the hope - that way it will happen

Just remember and practise in your head - start your sentences with "I feel" - even if it gets to "I feel you are not listening"

Now could be the time to have that one night in a hotel - remember that one - yes - there are better places but if you need to get away for one night - that's it - that's the time - I know money is tight for you but I reckon that's one wombat hole for you

Dec

Hi @Owlunar
sorry for taking so long to get back here. My own thread distresses me, bad isnt it!

Ill only bring up her bf if im put in that position. It hasnt happened for a little bit but if it happens again will tell mum and show her evidence until then I think ill let sleeping dogs lie.

Thank you for the tips, im struggling to with what to start with. My conversations never go the way they are planned so its really hard esp since despite knowing how my mothers going to react im extrmeley sensitive to even non verbal cues so its hard to keep getting it out then I start to stutter and then it makes things worse.

It almost has to be my mtohers idea so im not sure how the I sentences will work. Im trying to think of a way to even bring it up. Even if its just reducing time with the kids or getting her 'opinions' on how I can meet new people. Maybe an indication im trying rather than sitting at home trying on my own sort of thing.

I cant afford a night in ahotel but my mother has informed me shes gotten me a hotel for the night next weekend as part of my birthday present. Might need a night away before then depending on how this conversation goes !

I understand what you are saying @outlander

But if you want anything to change - yes - this is something you need to do

And I am wondering when you have time to sit around at homed - with all the washing and cooking and cleaning and caring for your pop - and when you are fit enough - looking after the horses

If you really can't do it - then I get it - I can hear what you are saying -

But ask yourself

Is this the way you want to live?

Do you want to be a slave-girl forever?

Because it can happen?

Dec

i know @Owlunar 😞

it has to happen. i jsut dont know if i can do it. its distressing me thinking about it but i dont want to be a slave anymore.

i dont know how this is going to go down. i dont know how shes going to react well actually i ahve a pretty good idea but its never enough to prepare me!

i cant sit and write the dot points out because i cant even get the words down on paper. how the heck am i going to open my mouth and say something.

ahh shite not again!!!